Pros: Builds attraction through preselection, makes her curious, sets the frame of you being the prize, and it tells her you're honest.

Cons: Even though it says you're honest, she'll be doubtful of most of what you say, and if you choose to take the relationship forward, the idea will scare her. It makes it hard for her to trust you, and if she doesn't trust you, it makes it harder to get a day 2 and to escalate all the way to sex.


I'm trying to find a way to tell women I'm a pickup artist without compromising the trust, and when I find a way, I'll post it on here, but has anyone else tried telling women they're a pickup artist? If so, were your results different, and how can I improve on this?

lol, why would you even identify yourself as a pick up artist? This is when you know your game is week. A lot of newer guys get caught up in this crap.

Your goal should be to become a cool guy who naturally gets women by bringing them value.

I'm afraid I disagree with the first part. But yes, that should be your goal.

Don't tell her, she'll assume you're a bit of player just by the fact that you've walked up to her and been confident and well picked her up. No need to possibly make yourself look like a dick.

Just my two cents

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I gonna have to disagree as well. No need to play with fire.

well I do not think its such a bad idea because firsttly youre being honest and she will question herself if you are still a pick-up artist would you have told her? it will be best to tell her as if its a thing of the past

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I gotta agree with Ouch. Also telling girls your a pickup artist, is kinda like saying your a millionaire with alot of houses and cars, it sounds like your trying to hard to impress them. Instead, try showing them your amazing self, and don't get wrapped up in the pickup artist identity.

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I gotta agree with Ouch. Also telling girls your a pickup artist, is kinda like saying your a millionaire with alot of houses and cars, it sounds like your trying to hard to impress them. Instead, try showing them your amazing self, and don't get wrapped up in the pickup artist identity.

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I only told J about that when we got together.
I explained her how I read "The game" (but did not mention this forum or the several threads about her), walked her through how I gamed her and made sure she knew about the options I dropped to be exclusive with her (a girl does not forget that stuff easily)
I also made sure she understood that this is largely a self-improvement path that does not make our relationship a farce based on deception.
Now when we squeeze hands she always says "IOI" and laughs

pros: she knows I am a man with options, plus it's just fun to show her how other suitors have no frame, or how I can AMOG them, ...
cons: jealousy (but up to a certain threshold it's actually a pro)

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Well if you tell a girl you should always be past the dating scene. A relationship is not necessary though.
And bring it casual.

I have told a girl it once. We had funny conversations about it. Not more.

You should only tell a girl your a PUA if you want to be in a serious relationship with her.

Once again, its all about your presentation and intention.

It shouldn't be a part of your routine or something you say on a day one or two, something you say to game a girl into having sex.

I told my girlfriend because I wanted to be completely honest with her, and then told her I was ready to give that up and become serious. She LOVED me for it. At first, she got really jealous around other women. I told her I could have any one of them, but I chose to be with her. She cried. I told her I wanted to be with her alone. We moved in together and I think shes the one.

Bottom line, its magic if you want to be in a serious relationship. There is no reason to reveal yourself otherwise.

LOL, you might as well tell her you've read a bunch of self-help books on how to get women to like you. RED ALERT! ABORT! ABORT!

I think you should.. but not in a straight off "im a pickup artist" - how i did it worked. I now have myself a fuck buddy/guru!
Heres how it went: should-i-tell-her-im-a-pickup-artist-vt141088.html

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girls are not retarded, if something is incongruent, it is incongruent

prizing is simply in your state of mind, and one thing you say does not nessicarily make it so, if you believe you are truly enough to be with her and that she is silly to think otherwise because there is no reason you are not good enough, then you will simply set that frame congruently, if you do not turly have this mindframe then it will shine through and she will notice the incongruence

just because you say, ''I'm a player, I fuck 200 girls a week'' does not make it so, girls are well aware of this, the words do not all of a sudden make her horny, or magically make you attractive, she has to believe you line up with that image congruently, for you to pull off congruence

if you are unhealthy looking, timid and shy, with terrible body language and a bad sense of style and she approached you, you do not have pre-selection and she is well aware of this, she can tell just by how you act, what you ''demonstrate'' says everything about you

now on the other hand, if she believes she has competition for a guy she finds attractive, it is more motivation for her to make something happen with that guy, you don't want to be openly bragging about fucking other women, this will probably turn girls off from you, rather then turn them on to you

it's better to be desired by other women, not currently sleeping with every women you come accross, this can leave you open for some harsh critism and judgement, not that you should really care but it won't really help you reach an aim, be as discreet as possible when it comes to who you do and do not sleep with, hush up man, it's a secret, assumed but not told, you have had many girlfriends past, girls are interested in you now, but she is who gets your attention right now, she gets to be the ''special girl'', once again, assumed not told

you have obviously read the mystery method, it is better to demonstrate higher value, then it is to qualify yourself, because if it seems incongruent, you will be tested on it, and if it is very incongruent, you won't be tested on it, it will just be assumed you are lieing, and incongruence is a huge turn off for a vast majority of all women

qualifying yourself as a ''pick-up-artist'' simply does just that, qualifies yourself, she can judge you for it and dis-qualify you based on it, there is no reason to tell her what you are, and what you are not, just demonstrate to her who you are, and let her use her chick logic to make out what you have ''demonstrated'' and define who you are for herself, just express yourself and let her do the rest, if you truly are some sort of master voodoo wizard pussy artist who fucks just as naturally as breathing, she will be able to sense it in your thoughts, words and actions alone, no need to verbalize that which is already understood, if you are a pimp, you can bet your ass she is already well aware of your pimp-like ways, no need to convince her