Hey guys. Its been 5 months since I joined and a long time since I posted too. Things have been going really well and looking at it I have achieved a lot. I will look at doing a post about it all soon.

I'm in the middle of something with a lot of promise. I met a girl at a weekly fitness club and we chatted a couple of times. I told her that I was going abroad for a month and so we added each other on Facebook. Here's where I need your help;

We have been messaging each other every day and now have a strong bond, talking about things we should do when I'm back, places we should go etc (basically agreed to start a relationship). She is obviously keen as she tends to send the first message. I am starting to worry that all of this messaging might become boring, also the fact that the more we talk, the more we get to know each other- which should be something we do when we are getting to know one another at the start of the relationship right? Aware of this I suggested we SPAM to mix it up a bit, and as a bit of a bridge between messaging and seeing each other face to face. I need some help with this, because I never use SPAM to talk to friends, let alone a potential girlfriend. I want to know how I can make sure these video calls go how I want them to, and basically ensure that I make progress so that when we see each other for real, we are comfortable and have lots of rapport. Specifically i would like advice with:
Making sure that she feels comfortable enough to open up and keep the conversation going
Making sure that I have plenty to talk about- not just playing on things that we have already talked about, but also new subjects.

Any and all advice and tips will be greatly appreciated. Thanks guys.

So you're thinking that too much contact could make it boring and your solution is even more contact, but via SPAM? Why?

When are you leaving? and why have you not went out with her yet? Why are you not going out with her the day before you leave abroad? it's the perfect opportunity. "Let's meet up before I go". That's a great incentive.

I'm not getting this from your context but have you ever been on a date with her? Did you ever kiss? did you have sex? if no, then why are you already thinking in terms of relationship? That's like buying a car you never even test driven.

Anyway, if you've already left let her initiate about 80% of the conversations. Talk to her when she does, have some fun interactions but don't overdo it. Once you're back get off your ass and go on a date.

PS: Tread lightly, you're already overinvesting.

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The thing is as she is showing interest, dont fuck it up for being too avaible and chasing after her... it needs to stay this way, that she is one who chases after you, not otherway...

If you are away, you are away and handling your own stuff, ofcourse if she contacts you, dont just ignore her and keep conversations light and make definate date and meet her face-to-face after you are arriving back. It keeps her wondering about you and believe me if you are just chasing after her and become too avaible.

If she is contacting you, just tease her little bit, make some friendly-fun, end conversation first and dont talk about everything via SPAM or text, its just un-necessary and you are making yourself too avaible for her and soon you can find yourself friendzoned. I have been this kind of situations.

SPAM is just like a date without the physical contact.

The harder you try to make a position impression, the more challenging it will be to make one. If you had to talk to your buddy over SPAM today would you come here asking for advice? No? Because he's already your buddy and no matter what happens you aren't concerned with blowing things with him. And it is in that spirit that great conversations are had.

I wouldn't think about it any longer, I wouldn't plan for it, I would just get back to my life and have the conversation when it happens.

However, heres a quick little cold reading technique that you can use if you feel things going stale.

4 questions:

1) You're in a all white women without windows or doors. 3 Adjectives to describe how you feel.
2) Your favorite color, 3 adjectives to describe it.
3) Your favorite animal, 3 adjectives to describe it.
4) You're right before an ocean shore. what do you do?


Question 1 is reflects how she feels about death.
Question 2 reflects how she sees herself
Questions 3 reflects how others see her
Question 4 reflects how she goes about sex.

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Unless you're on Antarctica don't EVER SPAM a girl, don't message a girl to chatt w/ her, don't incessantly text a girl. Schedule a meetup and then meet up with her in person.

She can't feel ur flow if ur using technology.

Gotta be in tha flesh.

Alright, thanks a lot.

Eddie Fews, I like the cold reading questions, thanks for that.
Oceanx alright, I get that, thanks. I'm not feeling keen on having a SPAM conversation, so its not going to happen.

So here's what I intend to do; I'm going to keep conversation light, and just via messaging, theres no need to put time into a video call yet as its more of a risk than reward. I am going to arrange a date for when i'm back, and this way I will have her invested in me, without me spending too much time on her. It also means that she will be thinking of me from time to time which will play to my advantage.

For the record..

I SPAM women all the time so I'm going to have to disagree with Ocean on that. I find that to be a weak way to think. Sure in person is always better, but if you can SPAM her right now and in person is not available, why not just SPAM? I personally would never meet up with a girl in person unless she SPAM me first. Especially if i met her online, or at a club at night. Meet enough women and you'll understand why.

I find it incredibly easy to establish that connection through SPAM. Part of having seductive self confidence is being able to say " Im going to seduce her through any medium I'm given". So i don't give two shits if a girl wanted to morse code. I'd morse code my way into a successful seduction.

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Ofcourse it can be done, but that doesn't mean anyone and everyone can do it.

Yet.

I'd stay clear of skyping if I were the OP

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