My story:

I've been with this girl for 3 years now. I just hit 20 and she's 18.We love each other immensely and we're both a little bit more mature than you're average retarded teenager.

The thing is that out of our 3 years , 1.5 were great when I was living in the same town as her , then I left for college 300 miles away. So for the other 1.5 it turned into a LDR.

Now , she's:
-really cute
-smart
-smoking hot
-independent
-ambitious
-extremely hard working
-kinda afraid of conflict.

Our relationship is really great but now we can only meet each other one weekend / month. We do SPAM everyday but it's really not the same,as you might know.
Our last fight was in September ,2012.
So in the past months she told me about twice (at a one month-ish interval) that this LDR thing really sucks. She misses me a lot , thinks about us all the time and really makes her unhappy that I'm almost never there.She also stated that this kind of stuff should only happen to married couples that don't have any other choice. I tend to agree with her on that particular note.

Anyway , she was crying while saying this , telling me that she doesn't know how she feels about continuing this since it's gonna be another 1.5 years until she can move to this city.

I didn't really take it for real the first time,I though she might have had a rough time. However,the second time got me thinking and I told her that the last thing I'm gonna do is force her to be unhappy 28 days out of 30 and that she should think things through.

Ok,so,she's supposed to come to my place on the 25th for the weekend.
Now,last week she was all like "I cant wait to come and fuck the sex out of you / hang out / spend some time /" all that good stuff. She was all kinky on SPAM and whatnot.
This week,however,starting Monday , she's kinda been distant and really off. So I pushed her to tell me whats wrong and she did. She said she thought about the LDR thing again and that we would talk about it Fryday.
I went no contact since then ,giving her time and space to really think things through.

Now obviously this means she's decided that this LDR things sucks too badly and she wants out(she kinda hinted towards it).And it's hitting her hard as many of my ex-school mates called me asking what is wrong because she's crying a lot during courses.

On top of this there are always people in her life that constantly tell her that this age is not for any seriousness and that she has plenty of time for that,she should have fun now.Naturally these people are complete failures at life that haven't got the slightest idea what they speak of. These people leech on her happiness in order to seek some sort of validation for their misery.

Idiots cant seem to realize that time has nothing to do with it.It's about the people. Truly finding a great match for you is really really rare.

I'm very centered , not possessive / jealous / needy / desperate at all. When she goes out with friends I don't as much as even text her. I just let her have a good time ,if she wants to talk to me she can call anytime. At most I just ask the day after "Had fun ?" She's also very loyal so it's not the hardest job in the world.
Point is,she can have all the fun in the world.

So I'm basically torn apart here. Part of me wants to be very angry with her 'weakness'. Part of me wants to understand ,part of me wants to help her understand 2 people perfectly happy with each other have no reason to brakeup,yeah LDRs are fucked up...but throwing away the potential of our relationship is such an enormous waste.The other part of me wants to just let her make her own decision.

She also said numerous times that we're perfect together and that it's a damn shame we didn't meet in our mid twenties. And she's right...we might have had a shot at a real future.

She doesn't really have too much experience with guys and relationships so I kinda think she doesn't really understand some things.

My 'genius' plan so far is to meet up tomorrow , have the dreadful talk.All in all I'm a rational guy so if she's so unhappy with the distance than I really cant make her go through this stuff another 1.5 years.And although this mess is fucking me up big time , I'd like to get past that and have a great weekend with her because if it's gonna be our last time together , might as well make it memorable. A great movie deserves a great ending,right ?
And if by the time she has to leave she still wants the brakeup...I guess I'll just approve it.
It's easier on me because my mind is occupied with work / school / gym / projects / other problems basically all the time. I rarely have any freetime to 'think' about stuff and when I do I kinda feel her pain.I do not,however,neglect her at all.

Like I said,my judgement is clouded by emotions and I can't really think straight but as much as I could do it,I think this is the best way to go.

Also,as she's kinda afraid of facing problems head on , there's a slight chance that she won't come tomorrow. That would be very disappointing but I doubt that's the case.

The real problem is that I doubt that I'll find someone to ever take her place in the near future,or at all for that matter.I used to be kind of a 'player' before meeting her and she's truly the only girl I actually ever liked.Like I said before...finding a really good match is so rare...

I love her dearly ...there are some things she does that have crawled so deep inside me I have a hard time picturing being without.I know letting her go would be a mistake.

I'm being torn apart by this.I usually stomped all problems in our relationship with max confidence.This time however,I'm questioning myself.It's the first time I feel that I'm not in control.

I really have no fucking clue what to do.

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Here is the truth Bro;

There is likely some other dude "sniffing around", 99.9% of the time, when they are having these "feelings of doubt".

1. She is hot.
2. She is young
3. Her only commitment is emotional.
4. She is impressionable and non confrontational.

I have posted this many times.

Here are the three biggest signs you are about to FUCK UP.

1. You start thinking “I don’t want to play games with this chick. I love her. Why can’t I just let her know.”
2. You think “This girl is different, I don’t have to play games with her.”
3. You think “She definitely likes me. We are apart. We’re past the point I need to play games.”

The minute any of those thoughts creep into your mind, re-read this post. And DO NOT convince yourself that she is different.

SHE IS NOT DIFFERENT.

The best thing to keep her mind away from straying?

Leave her wondering if she will ever see you again. She should be wondering how much you like her. She should be wondering if you’re seeing other girls.
Let HER wonder.

While she is wondering about YOU, there will be no room to think about straying! Get me?

When it comes to your up coming meeting, drop the melodrama,gloom and doom, "We need to talk." bullshit!

Let her think, NO promise HER, your going to bang her hard enough to leave bruises, and walk bowlegged for the next 28 days!

AND DO THAT!

When she brings up the bullshit, be understanding, and listen, but then, tell her to "Stop acting like a spoiled child! You know thing aren't that bad. Maybe you just need a spanking!"


Although young, you seem confidant and independent to understand what I'm saying here.

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There's no other dude man. Trust me ,I have played this relationship perfectly.
She is different ,but I never stopped 'playing games'.I never fucked up. I made sure of it.
I never strayed from her mind and in some fucked up way that's what's causing all this.That and her age and inexperience.The fact that things are going so well is what's scaring her. She can't appreciate what she has because of this lack of experience.

I guess she just wants to see what else is out there...I really dont know.

I can't think right now man..

Like I said ,I played it perfect. No fuckups , no other dude , and I still have no clue what the fuck am I supposed to do if she comes tomorrow.

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Ask yourself, do you want it to end? Or do you want to have fun while she is there?

1. Ignore/sidestep/circumvent the drama, do NOT get sucked in.

2. Show her the best time ever!

3. Fuck like monkeys!

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That's exactly the plan.

Thanks alot for your insight. Truly appreciate it. I picked myself up and snapped out of it.I'm better now.

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There's no such thing as shit-tests.
How to keep a girl.

Hate to break it to you, but these "failures at life" are spot on. I know you don't want to believe me, but it's the truth. I felt the same way when I got into my LTR at 20. All these people told me to not get too serious and enjoy my time as a young adult. I, of course, ignored that advice, and wish I hadn't.

Look, she has been in one relationship for 3 years from the time she was (presumably) 15. A teenager is, in my opinion, not supposed to be tied down to their first and only serious relationship for the rest of their lives. She needs to go out and explore other options, meet all kinds of different people and see what the rest of the world has to offer. I know you said she can do all this now because let her do what she wants. Assuming she is the type that won't cheat, your relationship is still holding her back. And it's holding you back.

Add to this the fact that it is a long distance relationship, where she doesn't even see you 90% of the time. Being physical with someone 2 days out of the month is not normal for an 18 year old, nor a 20 year old. She obviously isn't happy with the way things are, and no matter how hard you try to convince her otherwise she will continue to be unhappy. It isn't your fault - It is just the way the cards were dealt. You can't, and shouldn't, give up college to make her happy. And it sounds like she can't move just yet, so that won't happen either.

If you love her, and it sounds like you do, let her go. Enjoy the time outside of the relationship, and if you both still feel the connection after a year and a half apart, you can talk about it then. Don't waste your younger years, they go by quick.

This weekend, do as Heywood says. Make it enjoyable. When the serious talk comes, and it will, don't avoid it. If you want, tell her to save it for the last day and enjoy the rest of the time. Unless it is a weight on her mind, which it may very well be. Be understanding, and if she wants it to end, end it. Don't get angry, end it in a mature manner. Trust me, you'll feel 10x better about it, knowing you handled it maturely.

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I didn't say the were failures at life because they tried to influence her. I'm saying they're that because that's really what they are.Those people have nothing going for them.If you're not successful dont give advice about how to be successful.That was the idea.

I know this. And you're right.I also said something along these lines in my first post.
This is also true.My emotion storm was keeping me from seeing this simple truth.I understand your point , but nothing of these years was wasted. It was a great experience and a immense opportunity to learn a great deal of things.Which I did.
I'm a rational guy and nothing if not capable of being mature. So is she. I have no reason to be angry and ending it maturely is exactly what I want and I bet it's what she wants too. There's no reason for anger and resentment.I already said in my first post everything she told me is completely understandable.

I managed to get myself together and see things a lot clearer now.

Like I said , a great movie deserves a great ending. I won't settle for anything less.

I guess I should be happy.After all most breakups are a result of insecurity , cheating , lying , all that ugly stuff.Seems like I actually picked a lucky card if I think about it.
Thanks for your input.It was helpful ^_^.

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Bra-fucking-vo! Young Sire! You shall surpass many wanna-be's in your lifetime.

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You guys are young. Tell her that you've been feeling the same way and end it when she leaves from her visit. Tell her to re-visit it in 2 years when there is possibility of it being a non-LDR. Meanwhile, practice the art and bang other chicks.