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Guys I appreciate all the advice and a lot of it does make sense but please don't try telling me that I do not love my girlfriend. 'you just love getting your dick wet' The topic is clearly about me not getting my dick wet. You can love somebody and it not be the perfect situation. Yes I do think I probably need to have a think about whether this relationship could actually work for me and if I am going to get what I want from it.
For now I think I am going to try to slow the relationship down and try to get things back to where we were at the beginning. We became too serious too quick and I believe that is probably where the problem lies. We didn't spend enough time just having fun, we became too comfortable too quickly which took the pressure off of both of us to try and impress and let's be honest when a girl is trying to get you to like her, you are going to get laid!
Thanks for taking the time to reply though guys, anything you might want to add feel free. Any good ideas to maybe take the comfort away a bit as well would be good.
OP, I wasn't saying that you shouldnt be with this woman. Maybe she's great to you, maybe you have a deep connection, maybe it's true love. My point was that you should value yourself. You say it's tough to walk away from a flawed relationship. That is the most unattractive mentality. She should be living up to your standards, not you thinking well it would be tough to walk away.
You should communicate (either verbally or not) that she has to work to keep you. Not you having to figure out what to do to keep her or get more sex. If you have standards you'll get the sex. You have to challenge her. She should want to meet your family to make you happy and keep you. She should want to sleep with you to keep you. If you want to date the woman with money issues, who is 10 years older, who has a kid and you have to sneak to screw, that's your right, but at least do so from a position of being the chooser. Her competition should be the 22 year old women with their own place, no kids and whose money is right. The dynamic should be her working for you, not you fitting into her world.
What's glaring here is you're working for her. You're the one who has to sneak into people's houses. You're the one who has to make her feel less insecure. And she can't even come meet your family?! She can't come spend time if it's not easy for her?! She's the one arguing about money?! Personally, I would tell a guy to date a 400 pound no legged girl if she at least puts in equal effort. I'll say this, women can be very manipulative. Don't believe their words of love, ESPECIALLY from an older woman who has more experience than you. Look at her actions. Could very well be you're just the guy she sorta likes to date for a while until she gets back on her feet. All the love talk means nothing when she drops you. And I'm not saying that's your case, but it is a possibility. Have the relationship YOU want, with the meeting family, sex and spending time together that you would want. That can be with her, but you have to change the dynamic and create the relationship you want. If she doesn't want to change things to make you happy, dump, because most likely she's just killing time with you.
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