Just looking for some advice.
2nd time this week with similar advice.
Your base anxiety is fear of rejection from that hot girl at the coffee shop. I get it. A giant slap in your ego's balls.
I see two immediate problems.
You are a social cripple around hot women.
You don’t expand your dating territory towards women that are at your social level.
Approach a girl that's a little plainer, a little heavier, than your dream girl.
She will be easier to get a date with. If you are having trouble picking up more attractive woman with high self esteem, then go for one a little lower on the food chain.
You can get a girl like that to do just about anything you ask when you want her to! If you are just nice about it.
Get a few notches with a few of these girls, suddenly you'll realize how abundant girls actually are.
Don't worry, they WILL appreciate the chance to date YOU.