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By you onslaught about dominance and real orgasms, the OP had a 3some with her gf, and her friend that has a boyfriend. So that means the boyfriend didn't provide his girl with orgasms and dominance.
Now the boyfriend was about to get the same SPAM as the OP. But we was weak because he was cheated on already. So how the hell did it happen?
It seems that a weak guy (the roommate's cuckold bf) was about to get a 3some. Maybe you can explain rc how OP was weak, but got a 3some, the cuckold was weak and was about to get a 3some. Or maybe they were both dominant? Does being cheated on and staying with the chick get you a 3some? RC please make this make sense for me.... I think Arch is just trying to dismiss this because it hits home. OP could very well have taken his advice and said nothing, continued on and come back to the forum saying "a favor is owed" is bs. Arch, this was not directed to your similar situation and if you continue to trust your gf, let it be because of her character and loyalty, not because you think its a weak vs dominant thing. You can say OP didnt have boundaries or whatever, but the roommates cuckold bf WAS abt to get a 3some. If you trust someone, let it be for the right reasons. As a side note, you said your gf reads these, wont she see you as weak when she reads you coming here to keep her attention, and going through her phone? All Im saying is if this matches your situation, and you trust your gf, dont hang it on these shifting rationalizations and find something solid to hang your faith on.
Op, what are you going to do?
I'm still processing it. Everyone has excellent and valid viewpoints which means that the decision that I make needs to keep me happy. I still love my girlfriend even though the whole situation is messy because of every single one of us involved and we were all willing participants at the time. Today is the guys birthday and my girlfriend wants to stay with me at my place the night. The roommate text me last night telling me that my girlfriend called off the whole plan. I'm smart enough to know that this is all attempts at her wanting to fix the situation. My goal for coming here was to figure out a way to fix the situation. The only situation that needs to be fixed is my ability to feel that I can trust her. We've been together for a significant amount of time and I don't just want to throw it away but I can't pretend everything is just going to be okay from this point on. I think the best thing for us is couples counselling. If she thinks our relationship is worth it, then she'll agree to go. If she doesn't think it's worth it, she'll likely refuse to go. I will give her that option.
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