Hey fellow players.

I'm new to the forum even though I have been lurking and learning for years. I think I've learned a lot from you guys without ever having to make a post until today. I find myself in a potentially bad situation.

Let me give you some background. I just turned 42 three months ago and my girlfriend is 20 years (closer to 21 years) younger than me give or take a few months. She is unbelievably attractive (think of Scarlett Johansson's face with Jennifer Love Hewitt's body) and she gets tons and tons of guys chasing her but I'm the guy that she can't get enough of.

Back to my birthday. She asked me what I wanted for my birthday maybe a week or two before it came around. I told her that she didn't have to get me anything and sort of blew off answering the question. She came back a few days later and asked me again but that time we were drinking and I was a little tipsy and I told her that I would love to have a menage a trois with her and her roommate who has a boyfriend. I think it shocked her that I actually said something like that because I never shown any type of interest in that type of activity.

Fast forward to my actual birthday, my girlfriend decided to cook for me while her roommate was out with her boyfriend and then we were supposed to go out to a club with them later. I show up to dinner and she pulled out all the stops. Scented candles, soft music, and a meal. After the meal she said she wanted to give me a little something special in her bedroom. So I go in and she has me wait on the bed. After a few minutes she came in the bedroom wearing a sexy dress and started to give me a lap dance. After a few songs we began to makeout on the bed and I was thinking that I should forget about going out with the other couple because my girl did so much to setup the mood.

While we're making out she pulled out a sleeping mask from her dresser drawer and puts it over my eyes and then she started undressing me. She started teasing and edging me which was starting to drive me crazy. Then she started going down on me and I was feeling so awesome. Then it happened. My girlfriend whispered in my ear and asked me if I liked that and at the same time I felt a mouth on my genitals. I took off my blindfold and it was her roommate that was servicing me and on my 42nd birthday I had experienced my first menage a trois and it was awesome.

After that happened. My girlfriend, her roommate, and her boyfriend had gone out to dinner a few weeks later and this isn't the first time that we've done a double date. This time, the boyfriend was really cold towards me and I suspected that he may be aware of what happened. He sat silent most of the night and the only thing he said to me was our greeting and farewell, even though I tried to keep him in the conversation. He's been standoffish towards me ever since.

Thank you for reading so far because now I'm going to explain my problem. I found out this weekend that the roommate's boyfriend has a birthday coming up on Thursday. My girlfriend kind of jokingly asked if I would be mad if her and her roommate gave him the same gift. I saw red, but I remained cool and told her that I didn't want her to do that and she said okay and she reassured me that she was just joking and she wouldn't do anything like that with him.

This morning my girlfriend called me and said that she's going to drive up to her mom's house on Thursday, which is about a 2.5 hour drive from the city we live in, because they want to take her dad out to dinner. In my opinion, this is real convenient because her dad will not accept his daughter dating someone his age so I wouldn't be able to go. So I offered to get a motel room near her mom's house that night and I could stay there until they were done with the dinner and then we could drive back in the morning. She declined that idea because she said that she wouldn't want to risk being late for work by driving back in the morning.

I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place here guys. I'm pretty sure her and her roommate are planning to give the boyfriend a menage a trois and she's not being truthful in what she's actually doing that night. I'm not sure if I have the right to tell her that she can't do something that her friend in the exact same situation did for me. I've been stressing out all day over this and don't know how I should or shouldn't be reacting. Can you guys please help me out?

I have the same situation, lol. Not complaining.


Oh man. Yeah, this is the problem.

The hotel idea was needy.

We have the same situation. I'm 40, gf is 21, hot as hell. Gf has a cute roommate, had a threesome with her, cute roommate has a bf. Bf may or may not know about the threesome, don't really get along.

Before I can help, I need to know a few things:

1. Are you two exclusive?
2. How long have you been dating?
3. Does she tell you she loves you?

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Thank you for such a speedy reply. It is awesome that someone can actually relate to what I'm going through.

1. Yes we are exclusive.
2. We have been dating since November of 2015
3. She tells me that she loves me every day. If she doesn't see me that day she will make sure that she either texts or calls me telling me she loves me.

You're fine, then. Don't worry about it.

I get why you are feeling weird, but it could just be coincidence combined with a guilty conscience haha (I know I have one every time I see the bf of the girl I fucked in the threesome). Give her a phone call around 10:30 or 11:30 that night just to chat if it makes you feel better.

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I'm not sure that is helpful for my dilemma. I hear the roommate tell her boyfriend that she loves him all of the time and they've been exclusively together for at least a year longer than my girlfriend and myself. I don't want to be in the position of the oblivious boyfriend.

Well, right now you're in the position of the weak, neurotic one.

Take your pick.

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I'm not sure if your response was intentionally written to insult me or if you're saying that my only options is either to remain oblivious or be weak and neurotic. I don't want to accept either choice if you written that to show me my options.

Let me ask you this. How do you make sure that your girlfriend doesn't have sexual encounters with her friend and her friend's boyfriend if her friend had sexual escapades with the two of you? Is it just a matter of turning a blind eye and accepting that it may have happened?

Oh, they've tried, believe me. Several times. The boyfriend isn't a dominant male though. When I saw a golden opportunity, I escalated and finished with the two girls.

Would you consider the roommate and her bf more attractive than you and your girl?

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I gave you an accurate description of what she looked like without exaggeration. IMHO, there aren't many women that are as attractive as my girlfriend. I'm a personal trainer and I live in the gym and I resemble the late Paul Walker before he passed away. We are a couple that the other couples look at when we walk into a room together.

My girlfriend's roommate is very pretty but easily loses the battle of beauty to my girlfriend. I used to train her boyfriend and he is in decent shape.

I've been with lots of girls in my time and have known some to lie about the guys they have and haven't had sex with and hold a straight face. I'm sure if Friday morning rolled around and it turned out that they were all together I'm %99 positive that she would tell me that the couple tried to get her to join in the menage a trois and she'd say no. It's just hard to believe that would be the truth. I'm just not naive enough to think that being dominant is enough to keep girls in line. I personally have stolen girlfriends from the so-called dominant man(no offense to you). I wish I had the trust in my situation that you have in yours.

Lol, OP I'm sorry but she's sucking that dick on Thursday.

I dont want to be pessimistic but she's going away on the day that is the guys birthday, after bringing it up?

Sounds pretty simple...bf knows or roommate is just gonna call the favor. I mean, your girl didnt care if her friend cheated on her bf, think she'll have a conscience all of a sudden? Roommate could easily play the "we wont be friends anymore" card. The only obstacle is you finding out. She's not afraid of being involved in cheating. 3 people keeping a secret is easier than tension with her friend. If you rob a bank with 2 people, dont be surprised or naive that they wouldnt rob you.

OP, I've been telling guys for a while now that you never ever do threesomes with girls that are friends if you are in a monogamous relationship with one of them. There is always going to be a debt to be paid. I'm with Neo here, that dick is getting sucked on Thursday.

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I guess that I knew from the moment that she brought it up that this is the only outcome. I think the real problem is that I feel helpless in being able to stop it from happening and that's what I really need to get over. Thank you for the honest and blunt words of reality.

I wish I would have known this before the situation happened because I never would have made the request. In hindsight, the outcome should have been obvious. Thank you.

Btw, doesnt the dad know about you after a year?

He knows about me and has seen pictures of my girlfriend and I all over her Facebook. He doesn't approve. To her credit, she has never attempted to keep me a secret from her family.