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PostPosted: Fri Dec 30, 2016 7:09 am 
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-meet enough women that you become numb and jaded to it, keep going until you start to not really view talking to a girl who is a stranger, or being stood up/flaked, or getting naked and seeing new boobs as some sort of a monumental thing of importance, when you feel sort of apathetic about it and it's just something you might attempt to do on a friday night just like any other, you will have killed off a lot of the neediness that comes with inexperience
This is great advice.

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PostPosted: Sat Dec 31, 2016 12:48 am 
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some things that could help are:
-meet enough women that you become numb and jaded to it, keep going until you start to not really view talking to a girl who is a stranger, or being stood up/flaked, or getting naked and seeing new boobs as some sort of a monumental thing of importance, when you feel sort of apathetic about it and it's just something you might attempt to do on a friday night just like any other, you will have killed off a lot of the neediness that comes with inexperience
I'd love to but how do I do that when I'm flying solo all the time and not at parties? Even now I have the night off work wish I was working cause I went to gym yesterday (my program requires at least one rest day per workout) and have absolutely nothing to do or anyone to talk to right now and basically just feeling miserable about having to spend ANOTHER NYE alone tomorrow. Am I supposed to just do that crazy shit they do on say Simple Pickup and just talk to girls randomly? I don't have those level of balls.


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PostPosted: Sat Dec 31, 2016 1:24 am 
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I prefer to go out alone when I'm single and picking up women.

It's especially effective for picking up hired guns (bartenders, waitresses, etc). They like men who don't need to be part of the frat. Always needing that is feminine behavior, IMHO. You don't see a big bull moose hanging out with other bulls.

Stand alone, stand tall. Do your thing. Go out, man. Hit the bars.

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PostPosted: Sun Jan 01, 2017 8:17 am 
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I'd love to but how do I do that when I'm flying solo all the time and not at parties? Even now I have the night off work wish I was working cause I went to gym yesterday (my program requires at least one rest day per workout) and have absolutely nothing to do or anyone to talk to right now and basically just feeling miserable about having to spend ANOTHER NYE alone tomorrow. Am I supposed to just do that crazy shit they do on say Simple Pickup and just talk to girls randomly? I don't have those level of balls.
You don't need to start big, or do anything remotely similar to simple pickup.
Take it one baby step at a time, start with just actually saying hi or good mourning to people around you, on a regular basis. Learn the names of the people around you. Talk to people at work, invite groups of people out for beers after work once you know them a little bit, or to grab lunch or to check stuff out around the city, either events or art or museum exhibits, what ever you find interesting you are bound to find people that share the interests. Get facebook or SPAM, talk to people you meet, stay in contact, put in effort to create things to do for yourself and be inclusive of others. That alone will drastically take someone who has no social life, to someone who has a social life, I'm not saying you will be super busy right away but different habits eventually will lead you to experience a different daily life.

This carries over into going out and experiencing the night life. If you are very anxious and not used to going out to bars or clubs or socializing with strangers, all it takes is a few drinks and mustering up some courage to say hi to a group, or challenge someone to a game of pool if you're in a bar. Just take baby steps, you don't have to expect someone you say hi to, to have a 5 hour conversation with you that leads to marriage, just go into it with saying hi as the benchmark for you succeeding in your goal, if the person wants to talk more then work on your own social skills and do your best to not be EXCLUSIVE, be OPEN to continuing and helping to be INCLUSIVE of that person into the social situation, don't step on your own feet

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Be confident = vague thing to say & easier said than done
Be less needy = no brainer


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PostPosted: Sun Feb 05, 2017 1:35 am 
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You have to make yourself desirable. You want people to like being around you and women to need you around for some reason.
Find other things to do besides sitting around in your bedroom playing video games and watching pornhub. Hit the gym, go rock climbing or snowboarding or anything that will get you out the house and into society.

This is why sarging is the cure for alot of things. It allows for guys to get out there and socialize. It doesn't matter who you socialize with at bars, etc. Just as long as you are "social proofing" in hopes of making new friends and potentially picking up chicks.

Don't waste your time on the weekends get out there and Sarge dude. It doesn't always have to be the weekends but get out there more. Get out there and meet people. It's better to be out there chatting with women, kiss closing them, touching them or kino than to be at home starring at a computer screen wishing that was you on top of that girl in the movie. If you are out sarging at least you tried.Its better than pipedreaming.

Look everytime you finish watching pornhub and wish you were chilling with a real chick on your lap.
Reread Step 2 chapter 4 of The Game by Neil Strauss. It's pages 29-31.
Then pick a time to go Sarge and go do it. Don't let yourself back out.


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You have to make yourself desirable. You want people to like being around you and women to need you around for some reason.
Find others things to do besides sitting around in your bedroom playing video games and watching pornhub. Hit the gym, go rock climbing or snowboarding or anything that will get you out the house and into society.

This is why sarging is the cure for alot of things. It allows for guys to get out there and socialize. It doesn't matter who you socialize with at bars, etc. Just as long as you are "social proofing" in hopes of making new friends and potentially picking up chicks.

Don't waste your time on the weekends get out there and Sarge dude. It doesn't always have to be the weekends but get out there more. Get out there and meet people. It's better to be out there chatting with women, kiss closing them, touching them or kino than to be at home starring at a computer screen wishing that was you on top of that girl in the movie. If you are out sarging at least you tried.Its better than pipedreaming.

Look everytime you finish watching pornhub and wish you were chilling with a real chick on your lap.
Reread Step 2 chapter 4 of The Game by Neil Strauss. It's pages 29-31.
Then pick a time to go Sarge and go do it. Don't let yourself back out.

I agree with this advice. The social skills of most men suck ass due to just playing video games, working out 24/7 and not being in human contact on the regular.

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