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PostPosted: Sun Nov 27, 2016 5:56 pm 
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Still got a lot to learn. Smashed a cutie last night so i'm not that bothered, but was meant to meet a 7/10 this evening, i called but no answer then got the following:

Oh my god. I am so sorry! I just got your voice mail. I'm just going to see my friend in Worcester as she's had a bit of shit time at work and gone off sick. I'm so sorry to do this to you!

I replied, 'thats disappointing, no worries'.

Shes not read it yet.


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PostPosted: Sun Nov 27, 2016 6:19 pm 
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Don't worry about it too much because IRL stuff does come up. So treat her like you did before she flaked. Just don't start chasing her if she flakes again.

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PostPosted: Sun Nov 27, 2016 7:26 pm 
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You may have hurt yourself with the "that's disappointing line". I've dumped/ghosted needy woman who have used that language too early.

Be neutral and indifferent, and diffuse here obvious long, lying text:

You: Cool, no worries.

Then wait to hear from her. This chill indifference can pull a women on the fence to your side of the pasture.

Also, why did you call to confirm? Thats weak behavior. And avoid voicemail in general.

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PostPosted: Sun Nov 27, 2016 7:45 pm 
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You may have hurt yourself with the "that's disappointing line". I've dumped/ghosted needy woman who have used that language too early.

Be neutral and indifferent, and diffuse here obvious long, lying text:

You: Cool, no worries.

Then wait to hear from her. This chill indifference can pull a women on the fence to your side of the pasture.

Also, why did you call to confirm? Thats weak behavior. And avoid voicemail in general.
Because i hadnt spoken to her on the phone yet, brief chat on tinder/SPAM then scheduled a meet 5 days later with minimal contact in between


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PostPosted: Sun Nov 27, 2016 7:47 pm 
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I always send a text an hour before the meet-up with something like, I'll be there in an hour, let me know when you get close.

That way I don't have to go if she doesn't respond.

On topic.

You should wait a week while talking to other women, and then re-contact her if you really want to see her. If not, in a weeks time you'll have lined up at least another date. You should be able to get a date in a day, but that's besides the point. In a week she'll either be happy you contacted her back or have forgotten about you and moved on.

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PostPosted: Sun Nov 27, 2016 8:43 pm 
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i usually give 2 chances,the girl flaked day before yesterday for the second time and send me a message are we gonna chat,so i flaked


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PostPosted: Sun Nov 27, 2016 8:51 pm 
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i usually give 2 chances,the girl flaked day before yesterday for the second time and send me a message are we gonna chat,so i flaked
Lol nicely done.
Is it ever a good idea to voice your abundance with something like,

'Ah well, i've got a cute Italian who keeps pestering me to meet, she'll have to take your place'


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PostPosted: Sun Nov 27, 2016 8:54 pm 
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nope,you shouldn't care at all if you have choices,just ignore and move on


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PostPosted: Sun Nov 27, 2016 8:59 pm 
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plus that won't do anything but upset the woman. That's more of a burn the bridge sort of comment. It won't spark jealousy or anything like that, especially if you haven't slept with her.

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PostPosted: Sun Nov 27, 2016 9:05 pm 
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plus that won't do anything but upset the woman. That's more of a burn the bridge sort of comment. It won't spark jealousy or anything like that, especially if you haven't slept with her.
What are the realistic odds of meeting a girl who's flaked once though? May as well go out in style


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PostPosted: Sun Nov 27, 2016 9:09 pm 
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there could be million reasons for a flake,don't judge,give her another chance,but not too much,i usually give 2,if she is bitchy i give 1 or none


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PostPosted: Sun Nov 27, 2016 9:13 pm 
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Well no response and her Tinder shows shes nearby, exposing the lie.
I'll just move on to the next and number delete


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PostPosted: Sun Nov 27, 2016 9:34 pm 
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don't waste time being pissed on a girl that flaked,and don't get stuck on tinder alone,go out,there are awesome girls out there,i have met one last night but was too drunk to remember pretty much anything


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PostPosted: Sun Nov 27, 2016 9:56 pm 
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Because i hadnt spoken to her on the phone yet, brief chat on tinder/SPAM then scheduled a meet 5 days later with minimal contact in between
Always a good idea to hit up a couple of girls to invite closer to the time you actually have free for sex. Girls usually act in the moment, so a quick "Hey, hows things" and then "What are you up to tonight?" sent out to a number of girls is better than arranging a girl to meet 5 days in advance when anything can happen.


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PostPosted: Sun Nov 27, 2016 10:00 pm 
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Lol as suspected, deleted her number and got a reply within 30 seconds. Have my SPAM set so if i delete it, they cant see my picture anymore.
She had been online pretty much constantly since i left the last message. I'll never understand where girls learn these games. I know its all part of the PUA life but every now and then you come across the most down to earth, no BS girl and when you do, its such a relief. Like the one i smashed last night, some chit chat over text, met for a drink and convo flowed well. And that was that. Creampied her ass in the morning, showered and went home.
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