Few days ago a situation occured which got me thinking for some time, so went bowling with this girl as a date.

While we were leaving the venue, outside at the entrande there were about 7 guys with no girls smoking, me and my date walked by and one of them said, " i would do her". I laughed it off as in what a pathetic piece of shit this guy is and walked to the car.

Now if i was with my boys he would not off said that and if he did we would walk up to him and see whats up but while i was alone and with a girl i was on a date with i am not sure what is the right thing to do.

Your thoughts?

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It seems like you feel like the guys are disrespecting you and you had to give him a reaction. Do you realize while he's talking about what he'd do to her, you are the one that is in the position to do what he wants to do? If she's not feeling disrespected then that's what's important. If she was feeling disrespected and expecting you to confront them then you should be worrying about her maturity.

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You: "of course....she's completely out of your league".

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This happens a lot. I hate it when the guy feels the need that he has to respond. I agree with the first guy and don't even make it an issue. I'll make an exception to one guy that responded when a guy made a comment and he stopped us as soon as he made the comment and kissed me. That was the best "fuck you" ever.

Don't forget it's not all about you. The guy himself may feel disrespected by the comment, and will respond accordingly whether you like it or not.

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Why respond at all? No need to knock him down if he's not in your way, literally or figuratively.

What if the guy tries to retaliate and I get hurt because of it? Maybe it isn't about me, but I like a guy that's centered and has good sense and knows what to do in stressful situations. It shows his ego is fragile if a stranger can get under his skin like that.

I agree with all of that. But sometimes a man has to stand up for himself. A response (or lack of) all depends on context.

If another man disrespects my woman (or me) in public to a certain level, he will pay a price.

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How is it that you agree with all of it and then turn around and say you'd choose to do the wrong thing? Wouldn't it be better to ignore him and take her home and have sex with her?

I'm going to have sex with her anyway, lol.

I don't choose how to respond to life based on others. If I feel disrespected to the point of admonishing verbally or tossing a guy through a window, I will. It all depends.

If I know the person and they are just awkward, they get a pass. If it comes off as malicious, no pass.

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One of my girlfriends had a boyfriend that felt disrespected much like the guy who wrote this post and he verbally responded and she got punched and had a swollen eye because of it and stitches. We both worked as waitresses at the time, so now she had to miss work because she wasn't presentable. Would you feel responsible for her pain and loss of income because you couldn't just walk away or is she just a casualty in your eyes?

+ You wouldn't be having sex with her that night.

I'm 6'3 220, so they usually back down.

haha this is sooooo dramatic. Cute.

You never know. However, sex is not some rare mythical thing for me. I don't base my actions in life on whether I'll get laid that night, because sooner rather than later I'll be having more.

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Jesus. You think 6'3" 220 means nothing when you're outnumbered? How did you go from agreeing to everything that I said to "dramatic"? Is that your way of saying that your thinking is flawed so you're going to call me dramatic to avoid feeling silly? This is probably why I prefer more mature men than the guys with the frat guy mentality. They are more about protecting the girl than their egos.

Not even a first date yet and you're this super naggy.

If this was a bar, I'd walk away.

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Respect doesn't uncrack your skull, or deflect a bullet. If a guy just opens his mouth, it slides off me. I would not worry about a confrontation unless we were followed, our path was being blocked by them, etc. And if a woman thinks I'm "beta" for not picking a fight over a cat call that's her problem.

Lotta nothing fights start over the silly need to defend a woman's honor with no actual threat. Probably more start when people feel the need to get the last word in.

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