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PostPosted: Tue Mar 11, 2008 2:21 pm 
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Ok, so me and my girlfriend have been going out for 2 years, way before i even knew there was something like PUA.. I was indeed clingy and needy and realy wouldn't stop calling her because i felt like i needed her and can't live without her. Well, recently I pushed the limits of that needyness and she broke up with me, i desperately tried ot get her to go back out with me, "one more chance please baby." <-- that is what i said. I literaly broke down, which probably lowered my value. I currently am still suffering. I can't seem to get any schol work done or anyhting. Worst of all, she dosent even want o be friends with me and she is interested in another guy. Its only been a week and she likes this other guy. It is so hurtful, imagining her with another guy kssing him and all that shit AFTER 2 YEARS of us being together! I truely hate how life is right now. I hate everything. I know this is not an "emo" forum and i dont even know if this is the right place to post this or maybe i should see a doctor, but i just needed to get this off my chest because, ill be honest, i am really hurt. Right now, i should be working, but all i can do is think of her and this other guy, its so gross and I hate it and i really cnt stop crying. Sry if i sound like a pussy, its jus how I feel.


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I've been cheated on twice in my life. Once by my girlfriend of 3 years in high school, which hurt like hell. The second was my wife of 4 years. So believe me when I tell you I know how you feel, and have an idea of what thoughts are in your mind. I can sympathize.

You don't sound like a pussy or anything. It sucks when you've give that much time to a relationship and its over all of a sudden. Believe me tomorrow is another day, and you'll wake up and breathe like you have every day before it. My divorce and past relationships are my fuel to be a better PUA. Like I said on another thread, PUA isn't just about women. It's about picking up all those around you and leaving them better than you found them.

You're a smart, intelligent, and cool guy! It hurts right now but believe me you have a lot of good things going on for you. You will be better because of this.

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dude, thanks, thats really inspirational. I really appreciate your help and advice! Thank you so much.


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dude, thanks, thats really inspirational. I really appreciate your help and advice! Thank you so much.
You are very welcome!

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PostPosted: Tue Mar 11, 2008 7:28 pm 
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It sounds like you've definitely got some inner game conflict going on in addition to this. I know how you feel man, I think a lot of us have been there including myself. I do have some advice for you though.

If you are suffering as much as you say, then perhaps you should seek out some form of counseling? I'm not sure about your situation but if you're in highschool go talk to your counselor. If you're in college, look into it, lots of universities provide counseling for just this type of thing, especially because situations like yours definitely prevent people from performing well in school. Seeking out help like that might seem daunting, but it just might be what you're looking for. I'm sure they'd keep your problems discreet and would help your self-confidence and inner game get back to where it needs to be. I can't say that I've done this myself, but it just might help you out. give it some thought.

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Yeah, i dnt really like the idea of counseling but if this does not go away, i might do it, but for now, its not an option. Also, my parents are dead and I on't go to a regular hihg school and I am home schooled, so that also plays part in my head!


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Yeah, i dnt really like the idea of counseling but if this does not go away, i might do it, but for now, its not an option. Also, my parents are dead and I on't go to a regular hihg school and I am home schooled, so that also plays part in my head!
Wow that's heavy man I'm sorry to hear that. No worries, when I was in your position I could have never brought myself to go to counseling either I had just heard from other people that it works wonders.

Either way, keep your eyes on the horizon. Before you know it you'll be back out there doing your thing with a whole slew of new girls. It might be tough at first, just push yourself to get out there and meet some new tail. :D

Soon enough you'll realize youve forgotten all about the whole thing because your life has become so awesome. Give it a good mix of time and effort, you'll see results. Remember though that change is a process, and results won't be instant. Good luck

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I have to work on my inner game, i must push myself to be strong because if she is out fucking other guys, i should be fucking other girls!


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I have to work on my inner game, i must push myself to be strong because if she is out fucking other guys, i should be fucking other girls!
If? Man, she broke up with you. Forget her and this relationship. Move on.


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The best thing you can do is to stay busy. Occupy your time. Get outta the house, mingle with your friends. Do everything you can to get your mind offf of this chick.

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PostPosted: Fri Mar 14, 2008 5:16 am 
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I hope you enjoy this sweet video. It helped me when I was in a similar situation.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fDcNjhYJLwg

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Thanks King, that shit just helped me. Mad love for posting that shit.

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Nearly the exact same thing happened to me,I was two years with this girl..I remember after about 3months after we broke up I was at a party and my ex ended up in an upstairs bedroom with some guy while I was down stairs.Man, I was nearly in tears, and it felt like she didn't give a fuck (which she obviously didn't).She was, back then, really good looking and I always felt I was lucky to have her.
But, that heartbreak was the best thing that ever happened to me in my life so far.After I started to get my life back together (since my whole life revolved around her), I found I had a monstrous drive.I started working out, messing around with some other girls, made new friends and became twice the person I ever could be without the pain of a heartbreak.
And after I discovered the Game I pulled of a series of amazing pick ups that established me as a player among workmates and friends and family.
So embrace the pain.
"You cannot truly reach the top, unless you've been at the bottom"
ps. my ex is working in a lame ass shop, is fat and I feel really sorry for her

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