OK, so I am 17 and I use to be really nervous around girls. But then I got rejected so much, that it stopped bothering me. I was able to gain confidence with women, even though deep inside I wasn't really that confident. Just last year I had sex with a few very attractive girls, and I also was dating a REALLY attractive 19 year old for 6 months. I shit you not, I use to get a lot of praise for it too, because I was just a average looking 16 year old. I had a little bit of acne, but not bad, but I was also a tad bit over weight, but not much. So everything was going great, until I ended up breaking up with that 19 year old last April. Over the summer, and the first few months of school I ended up putting on 35 POUNDS! I went from barley above average to pretty much fat/chunky. I don't have a huge stomach that protrudes out, but I have a very chunky face that I am super self conscience about.

Because of this I have lost all my self confidence, and I haven't been with an attractive girl since like July. Its driving me insane, I mean I am also trying to lose weight so I can gain that confidence back but I also want to be able to get girls at my current weight. All I can think about when I want to approach a girl is "oh, I'm to big now I can't get her". And this really sucks, especially after my success with woman a year ago.

This is my first post on this site, but I desperately need help. Thanks!

Welcome to the forum! Believe me when I tell you that looks don't matter all that much. I've seen big guys, bald guys, goofy guys, old guys, and others all pull it off. But you have to have confidence in yourself that you can do it. You have to get your inner game (head) right first and then it won't really matter.

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Thanks, but how exactly do I get my inner game right?

look round this forum theres so much stuff on it try searching for inner game on quick search or get some pick up books, mystery method, the game etc. sorting out your inner game isent that hard but it takes a little effort and quite a bit of time to get it perfect

Looks don't really matter that much but it would be stupid to say that they don't matter at all.I can tell from reading your post that your looks are where you get your confidence from, so if you want to be, or go beyond where you where before join a health club and start toning your body.Trust me, if you really want to you can get a body you never dreamed you could posses, and as for your confidence? You'll be the man!

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Download P90X. Trust me when I say that this is even an exersise program that is worth paying for. This really helped with my inner game. Just check it out. Even people who aren't overweight should get it.

Inner game.
You need happiness to get your true confidence. Thats where it comes from.
Like they say = if you look good, you feel good.
Also i think if you have a shit load of money and your not starving to death you feel good. If you have pulled a gorgeous girl you feel good. Work on the things that will bring you happiness, then confidence will follow. Health, wealth and love.

Dont worry about the weight thing too much, from what you wrote youre ok with your natural looks, and they're alot harder to fix.

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So if I lose weight, I will start to feel better about myself. If I start to feel better about myself, then I get my confidence back?

Is there anyway to get my confidence back other then losing the weight? (Not that I don't want or plan on losing the weight, I'm just wondering)

Yeah. Doing things or gaining things that make you feel good. Its like when you start off making approaches you're not that confident, but once you are having success picking girls up you gain confidence. Why? Because this makes you happy, you're then confident in you're abilities, reassured about yourself and getting somethings back in life that you where missing. Think about the way it works and where you get your confidence from. All kinds of places.

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There are plenty of fat rappers who gets tons of chicks. And not because they're famous, because if it were just fame, Jerry Seinfeld would be a player. lol

that isnt true, it is because of fame. Its becuase they have a huge social circle, that has alot to do with PUA. But im not saying if you have no friends you can't pick up, becuase you could.

Also p90x works wonders, im not a huge guy. I was 5'7 150 pounds. Got some lean muscel protein and started p90x, it worked wonders. I wasnt fat or anything, if i flex i had a 6 pack no problem. But with the protein and the program im up to 160 and looking good as fuck. One of my buddies used it, after 4 weeks he lost 15 pounds, it really works you just have to have the motivation to WANT it.

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