Hey, I like a woman who works at my grocery store. Any suggestions for how to pick her up? I only meet her when I pay for my grocery's and there is usually someone waiting in line, so time is pretty limited...

Tell her you'd like to take her out to pick her brain on produce. Use the typical would like to take you for coffee or a walk what's your schedule like next week.

Seriously just go ask her, wait till she's less busy but don't posture.

It's going to be really hard if there is a kiosk between you, but I'd go for the arms around her thighs then lift.

have your number pre written. talk a few visits, warm up. then leave your number after you've built enough attraction. or ask what time she has lunch

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Pretty much what these guys said. Have a few brief, friendly chit-chats a couple times. More than just customer-clerk type conversation.

Eventually, I'd just drop it right on her.

Trying to pursue a taken women is a stupid idea, so just hit her with a combination of:

"Are you single" and "I want to get to know you better, let's grab a cup of coffee/snack/whatever sometime"

Feel free to use whatever specific phrasing that YOU are comfortable with using.

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i agree with most of that but im on the fence about asking whether or not she's single

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don't ask if she's single

In PUA-Universe, the topic of boyfriends does seem to send waves that destroy the very fabric of reality.

Back in our universe... the rationale behind asking is pretty simple. I'm offering advice from the perspective of someone looking to meet a quality woman, not sleep with someone for shits and giggles a few times.

Yeah, ask if she's single. And with good reason. She's either interested or she's not. Wasting your time on a sort-of-kinda-borderline is not a good idea. Given that you're trying to avoid oneitis - you're also subscribing to the idea that there's "other fish in the sea" - so bothering with anyone not at least somewhat interested in you is a waste of your time. Period. But wait, there's more: any response other than "yeah, I'm single" is basically a red flag, or a boatload of red flags.

Let's look at the basic scenarios of how she would respond:

1) I'm single (true) - she's interested = green light. Not rocket science.

2) I'm not single (lie) - she's playing games. Why in the hell would you want to get involved in this? She's either not interested or messed up. Man up and move on.

3) I'm not single (true) - she's taken. Does it really matter if it's serious or not? Are you really going to get involved in this mess? Whip out the "powerful 'boyfriend destroyers?" If it's not serious, you can always reconnect with her in the future when she's available.

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Asking if she's single gives her an out without deciding if she's interested yet. Some girls get approached so much it's routine to try to turn a guy down before he gets started. Best not to ask.

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Pointless drivel.

Beats your one liners for sure.

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She would have decided if she's at least mildly interested ages ago - especially with this guy who she's seen several times before.

Maybe some guys don't value their time, but I wouldn't waste a second on borderlines, mind-gamers or other weirdos.

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Has he approached her or just paid for items? Can't say she's wasting his time if he hasn't tried yet.

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Your pseudo-intellectual verbose insights? Not really.

Sorry, pal, but that's still better than your one liners which have no backing thought presented. Every day of the week.

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