Hey there,
I have a neighbor that I find attractive. We've hung out about like 5 times. (She's asked me to hang out 2 of the times). I feel like each time we hang out we get a better understanding of each other and its been smooth each time. I'm having trouble escalating with her for some reason. I don't know if its the fact that she lives right underneath me or if she doesn't feel that way towards me. Any tips on escalating with her?

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It's been a year, man

You're not immersed with the skill, you're not even interested in pick up, you just want to some magic lines at, this forum's expense and then you will disappear till the next time you have a crush.

I could tell you to google and read and watch the countless content on this subject. But the fact of the matter is, to get good at this, you need to break eggs to make the omelet. You need to fail at least 100 times with women to be somewhat decent at this escalation move. But you are not willing to do that for my reasons above.

Stop dabbling, this is a lifestyle change like the gym. You are not going to get results if you go just the once a year and eat cheerios 3 times a day.

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Not sure what you want from this post.

You know what escalation is don't you?

Nobody on this forum can do it for you!

What I'm interested in is what sort of moves you have made towards this girl already and where the situation is at right now.

You could always start with holding her hand and see how she is comfortable with that.

Dude if you get the idea that she's into you then just go for it. You've hung around enough now that its time to just make a move. If you really want to small chunk it then give her some playful hugs and see how she responds. If she pulls away slightly then back off and slow it down and pick it up a little later. If she plays back then you know its on right? Then you can kiss her on the cheek see how she takes that... then when its a good moment kiss her on the lips bro... REMEMBER!!! ...its not in the move itself necessarily but in how you react to her response. If you remain very chill and calm then she will react the same way. Just be sure to lead the interaction..... Keep the vibe light and playful... you dont wanna be to serious unless a more intense drama is what you're playin at...

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Thanks or the advice Kss ing

And the other 2 posters you've disregarded?

Rude or what?

No doubt this probably affects your success with women if you can not take constructive criticism. Bellend

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No Dragula i pm'ed another one of the users. I thank all of you for the advice and even yours. I searched somethings up on sexual escalation and I did find some helpful tips. I still feel like I need a little more insight though. I know how to get a connection/ someone comfortable with me, I just feel like I fumble when its time to make the next move.

And my PM?

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I can see no one has really helped you so far so here's my advice.

Start off with judging her interest level by body clues; although you probably don't have to do this because if you've hung out 5 times she clearly likes you.

You could also try testing her body responses based on your body movements/positions to see if she mirrors your actions. Face your feet towards her when you're talking and see what she does. Act like you're grabbing something and then sit down back next to her but this time sit a little closer and be slightly touching her. See if she readjusts herself to stop your legs from touching (bad sign) or if she doesn't move it means she's okay with it (good sign).

From there you can try a number of different things. If she has holes in her jeans then put your finger in one of them playfully and say something like "hey did you know you have holes in your pants?" or "wow you're pants must be pretty religious, look how holy they are."

The last thing to do is have a good conversation, let the conversation die down/taper off, and just look into her eyes and her lips. If she maintains eye contact for 3 seconds she probably wants you to kiss her. Human beings don't like awkward silence while staring into each others eyes so if she holds contact then just go for it.

If/when you get to this moment remember this line I'm about to tell you: "Just. Fucking. Kiss. Her. You. Pansy."

You'll be less sorry for yourself if you try than you will be for not trying at all.

^Thanks for the advice man. Appreciate it.

Don't hide your dick from girls. Especially the ones that you're interested in. Meaning you're not letting your intent be known to the girl straight away. That's exactly why you're in the friend zone with her now, because you put the friend frame there from the beginning and hid your true intent from her.

I wouldn't recommend escalating on a girl or girls that live in close proximity to you that you will see often anyways. That's how you get a bad reputation. Rather, talk to other girls via cold approach or social circle, and coming from that place of abundance..just chill with the girl as you normally would. Just show intent when you're with her from now on. You can do this a variety of ways: Hold her hand for a few seconds and let it go, sit her on your lap, put your arm around her, and my personal favorite - make statements of intent. I like statements of intent because it takes very little energy or thought to do. It's basically a lazy way of verbally establishing a sexual frame with the girl, and any chode can do this. I would caution though, that it needs to come from a self-amused place. If you say it without it coming from a self-amused place and say it in a serious way..not only will it not work, but it will come across as creepy. An example of a statement of intent coming from a self-amused place would be like this dialog between you and her below.

You: "Are you hungry?"

The Girl: "Yes"

You: "I'm fixing for a hot dog"

The Girl: "Oh i like hot dogs"

You: "Oh i bet you do, because it's long and hot (while smiling and chuckling)"

The Girl: Hahahaha!


Now these techniques are situational, so you need to calibrate and use them appropriately to the situation. Disclaimer!!! - Don't be an idiot! Use common sense! Sprinkle them on her as opposed to showering them on the girl.

You're in the friend zone with her right now, but you can come out of it if you do the kind of stuff that i mentioned above. It will be much harder for you to get out of it than if you had established this sexual frame with her in the very beginning.

-G

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i would try to invite her to do something more physical as you said you've been hanging out a lot , so if i was you, i would probably invite her to salsa lessons or to do any type of activity where you guys have to be really close or touching each other , or i would try to have a conversation with her and try to bring sex topics on a funny way then try to escalate as soon as she give me signals to do so .

You can tell her that you read the palm and take it as an excuse to hold her hands while you are sitting some where. Then, when you are done with whatever shit you will come up with, keep the hand. Then you can go for the kiss, if she kept the hand.