Went on two dates w this chick. Didn't close but texted w her couple times and asked her out again and she did not respond to the invite. I then followed up the next day with this long text and received this response. Will I ever see this girl again or is she just being polite in her response?


Me: People like you don't come around often. First, you're hilarious. You're easy-going, spontaneous, fun and committed to your goals. These qualities are hard to come by. I'd like to get to know you better but you're not letting me. I don't fully understand it given how much fun we had with SBLAD, bingo night and laughing our asses off with Amy Schumer and that awkward brother and sister from Belarus.

You should know that you have an aura that is heart warming. If I ever walk in to a room that you are in I will instantly feel a positive energy that I can't even begin to describe. That is why I approached you in the first place. There was a connection between us instantly and this is why I won't just let this go. Unless, of course, you tell me to leave you alone, in which case I would respect that and bounce.

No big deal either way, but I figured since we both like spicy margaritas and playing bingo on Sunday nights, you're probably a cool chick worth getting to know.

Her: Thank you so much. That means a lot to me and is probably one of the nicest things anyone has said to me.

Why would you send that?

YOU: You are so great and I've never met anyone like you. Our connection is so powerful. If you don't feel the same, no biggie.
HER: I don't know how to let you down easy.

What you said is so incongruent and makes you seem so desperate. She didn't reciprocate in any way, so I doubt that there is any interest coming from her.

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Thanks dude. Now I know it was a rejection and can move on.

She's being nice.

She has no interest in actually seeing you again. Once you have to pour your heart out to manipulate a girl into seeing you for a second time you're already behind the curve. Im sure you feel a few of those things, but you are only saying them in the way that you are because she has "disappeared" and you are trying to manipulate her into reappearing in your life. Its cute, but obvious and not nearly enough to generate actual interest and attraction. The friction of attraction is what gets the flame started. You basically just handed yourself over on a silver platter with an apple in your mouth. In essence you said " You don't have to work for me, you don't even have to show you're consistent on a second/third date for me to like you. I only met you one time and I already think you're the greatest thing since pants with pockets. I'm all yours. The chase is over. The mystery is over. You can have me if you want me". Thats game over bro. Her response was the final cut scene. Women have male orbiters saying things like that to them all of the time.

As a member of the "Pick Up Artist Forum" I'd figure you would know better than that. Take the lesson, move on, and just do better with the next girl. You have to get some standards though bro. A girl should have to do a lot more than be impressive for ONE DATE for you to be flooded with such emotion. You should require more. Once you do so, you will obtain more.

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Thanks man. I cannot play the game. It's just not ingrained in me to do so. I feel bad and guilty if I do and of course I always end up losing. When will I learn. I make the same mistakes over and over.

I don't play games bro. I have standards. I know how easy it is to pretend you're something you aren't just for one day. I require a consistent level of playing your part before I allow any emotion to take over and alter my perception of you.

Sounds like you're making an excuse for yourself. If so, you're on the wrong forum.

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Making an excuse for myself? No I'm stating the truth of why I am still single.

Can you not have standards?

Can you not screen the women you're dating to see if they meet you're standards before you start writing them love letters?

Can you not hold your tongue until a good moment presents itself?

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I want to say yes but I lack the self control of holding back when I feel it.

Do you always "feel" like going to work in the morning? Do you still go?

Excuses are the nails that build the house of failure.

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I guess no but dude I think it's much harder for me because I am so lonely and don't have much else going on in my life.

give up,your genes are not meant to be passed on if you cant make a simple and the best choice

bro it was not long ago that i was like you, instantly infactuated with any girl that seems into me.. i just gave myself the label of a hopeless romantic and said it would never change. fuck that though, it was just an excuse (not a conciously made one) to not put any work in to improve my life.

if you really are that lonely then that should be your driving force to make change, use it to your advantage.

you grow virtues.. morales.. mindsets by acting as though you already have it, there is no magic on button for change.

We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; The real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light - Plato

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