Does this ever happen to anyone else? You see a super-hottie, the perfect woman, the girl of your greatest dreams, in the grocery store. You know logically you will not die or be executed or have a spotlight shone on you if you go up and talk to her. And yet you feel that is exactly what will happen to you and so you FREEZE. Of course, it doesn't help that I'm not especially good-looking and she is a super-hottie. I simply had no clue what to SAY even if I had approached. I mean beyond "Hi" what is there? "Oh, I think you're the most beautiful woman in the world." NOPE! I just tightened up and actually fled from her sight and now I want to die. Because this happens to me ALL THE TIME.

You gave her more value than you given yourself.

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Doesn't answer my question! How would I just TALK? OPEN? ASK OUT?

Seemed like you were ranting more than asking a question. How do you normally talk to people that you don't know? Do that.

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I normally don't talk to super-hotties, that's the whole point. No one can even suggest an Opener that feels natural, normal?

There is an entire subforum for approaching and opening. However, there is this awesome opening in which you can walk up to a girl and introduce yourself. Sounds crazy, but it actually works.

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besides being hot,what else is she?

Nope. I dont place anyone above me.

When you don't approach women you're attracted to, you diss yourself. You aren't living honestly, you're denying yourself, and denying your existence as a sexual being with needs.

Opening isn't about the girl, it's about you, and you're opening yourself anyway.

I already know they are my reality.

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All the time man... I just wish I could approach. But when she's this hot... the approach anxiety just kills me. Would you go direct?...



MOTIVATIONZ.

Not knowing what to say isn't the problem. Thinking that some girl you dont even know is the girl of your dreams is the problem.

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Ok my friend all is not lost! We have all been there. Tongue tied, scared, nervous not knowing what to say. When you're talking to your friends and family, you never worry about knowing what to say. Yes I know you're not trying to fuck any of them them but bear with me lol

Let go of this feeling of her being this amazing perfect deity that you can only worship from afar! Yes she is attractive but she is only human after all. I don't care how hot a woman is, she still bleeds from her vagina, shits and pisses! This is why I don't rate women out of 10 because it puts them on this pedestal which is not helpful!

The problem is you were thinking of the perfect thing to say to her in order to get her! Hence why you clammed up and did nothing. You were afraid of being rejected and feeling like a loser. Look you have to try because even if you try and you fail, its better than doing nothing.

She was in the grocery store. What was she doing? what was in her basket? what was she wearing? How was she behaving? all this you can observe and make a witty remark about. For example I will look at a woman's basket or trolley and say something like "wow you eat healthy, are you training for the Olympics/Marathon" then from there you can make assumptions about what she does, the crazier the better, guess where she is from, accuse her of spending all her money on junk food, whatever!

Try this exercise! When you're out next, don't approach, just make observations about people, and write it all down. Do this for a week or 2.

Next, start having small talk with everyone you come into contact with, shop assistants, bus drivers, bar staff, people in the lift. Doesn't have to be exciting, but just get talking.

Something else I do is I warm up in the daytime by asking for directions. And this doesn't mean to say the conversation is over after she has told you how to get to your destination. Notice something about her and make a comment about it.

Also try filtering less. Theres a great improve technique. Have a friend suggest a topic to talk about for 2 minutes, without hesitating. Don't filter or record yourself if you feel more comfortable doing it on your own.

I agree with Warped. But anyway, I suggest you do this:

1) Practice - the more you approach, the easier it will become, you will learn the feeling that nothing bad happened - and at least in my experience lot of good things happened when I started approaching more

2) It sounds from your post like you are insecure about yourself. On the one hand you elevate this girl you haven't even talked to to some sort of dream girl and at the same time you consider yourself not very good looking.

The fix is to go and think what it is that you think is not good about you, and work to improve it. Are you not good looking because you are fat? Go to gym, follow exercise plan, and eat reasonably well. Bad clothes? Look at some fashion pics online and try to buy some clothes that fit you and go well together. No clue about that? There is lot of stuff online.

You get the idea. When you fix the problems, then you will not feel like there is hundred kilometers between you in terms of looking good, being good and so on.

Oh and when you talk to her, just say what you feel, i.e. you saw her, think she's cute or something, so you had to talk to her, whatever. Don't think for half an hour in order to come up with "oh I see you are looking at spring onions... Are they in season now?".

the way i go about it is so what,yea she could reject me,so what,there is another girl,anything i have to say is good enough,i don"t need to say the right thing cos i don"t know is she the "right" person,just going there to meet her,if she freaks out so what,i am doing it to up my game not to impress her

Wah

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