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PostPosted: Sat Mar 12, 2016 10:00 pm 
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Yeah so ive been on a date with this girl, she said she had a great time blah blah blah.
We talk and flirt on phone pretty regularly its just its been over a month since i last saw her...

like she says she busy which i dont doubt she is but like im wondering if im just wasting my time?
like my texting interaction go fine if that helps.

Im just wondering would it be a bad idea to ask her if she wants to see me again?
any advice is much appreciated!!!


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PostPosted: Sat Mar 12, 2016 10:16 pm 
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No, it's definitely not a bad idea. If she wasn't interested at all, she probably wouldn't keep up with the texting. Girls like it when guys assert themselves and ask them straight up to go on a date. Have you tried asking her before?


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PostPosted: Sat Mar 12, 2016 10:17 pm 
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Ummm...you haven't seen her in a month? You definitely need to see her again. No matter how busy she is, she will make time for you if she's into you.

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PostPosted: Sat Mar 12, 2016 10:19 pm 
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Yeah, agreed. How did you ask her before?


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PostPosted: Sat Mar 12, 2016 10:25 pm 
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yeah like ive tried straight up asking her and just inviting her to events im going to.
The thing is she seems really keen but i realised i should probably give preference to actions rather than what she says so i just said
call me if your not busy and good luck with your interviews...
ill just leave it at that i suppose jay lai and jack zero?


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PostPosted: Sat Mar 12, 2016 10:33 pm 
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i should probably give preference to actions rather than what she says
I couldn't agree with this more.

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PostPosted: Sat Mar 12, 2016 10:34 pm 
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Yeah, that sounds pretty good. Who knows what's going on with her, but it sounds like you've done as much as you can do at this point. I wouldn't put any more effort into it. Don't text, call or anything for at least a week and see what happens. If she initiates communication, then chances are she's still interested and you could say something like. "I love chatting with you, but I'm more of a face to face kinda guy and I would love to see your face again. If you feel like meeting up, let me know." and leave it at that.

If you're still thinking about her after 1-2 weeks of no communication. Send her a quick message to ask her how her interviews went. If she responds, then chat for a bit and then say something like what I mentioned above.


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PostPosted: Sat Mar 12, 2016 10:44 pm 
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Let us know how it goes. Good luck bro.


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PostPosted: Sun Mar 13, 2016 4:35 pm 
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i should probably give preference to actions rather than what she says
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Yeah, that sounds pretty good. Who knows what's going on with her, but it sounds like you've done as much as you can do at this point. I wouldn't put any more effort into it. Don't text, call or anything for at least a week and see what happens. If she initiates communication, then chances are she's still interested and you could say something like. "I love chatting with you, but I'm more of a face to face kinda guy and I would love to see your face again. If you feel like meeting up, let me know." and leave it at that.

If you're still thinking about her after 1-2 weeks of no communication. Send her a quick message to ask her how her interviews went. If she responds, then chat for a bit and then say something like what I mentioned above.
So dudes, i just said if you want to come see me give me a call and good luck with her interviews...
She replied "Yeah i will! im just not in town much, thanks natedogg <3"

Like so jay laie and jackzero i think ive done as much as i could? like if she does call me then obv will see where it goes but i think i should just stop messaging her full stop.... like as i said before she seems interested but i feel like she would of made time within the past month? btw i would say ive a some what solid text game....


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PostPosted: Sun Mar 13, 2016 6:28 pm 
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Truthfully, it doesn't sound like much interest from her. She gave a positive response followed by an excuse. Are you sure that she's not just enjoying the attention you're giving her, humoring you, or just trying not to hurt your feelings by rejecting you.

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Hmmm... I don't know, this is a tough one. It's possible she likes the attention and is also just trying to be nice. But at the same time, if a girl isn't interested at all, then they don't put heart emoticons and shit.
She probably wouldn't even respond. She actually might genuinely be going through something right now and isn't in the head space to meet up with you yet. Like I said before, don't text or make any more effort for at least a week, maybe 2.

In that time, talk to other girls who might actually be down to meet.

If after a couple of weeks you are still thinking of her and still want to see her again then send her a short message to say hi and see what's up. Asking her about her interview or something specific. Make a little bit of small talk, see what her responses are like, and then ask her straight up if she wants to go out. If she's still saying she's busy (after this time of giving her space), then just drop it. Say "cool, good luck with everything." Don't even say "text me when you're free." Just drop it and move on

Hope this is helpful. Keep me posted.


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PostPosted: Mon Mar 14, 2016 1:33 am 
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But at the same time, if a girl isn't interested at all, then they don't put heart emoticons and shit.
You shouldn't rely on emoticons to prove interest unless they didn't use them originally or stopped using them when they had always used them originally. Those reflect change in attitude. Otherwise, it may just be how that one in particular communicates. Don't get caught up in reading something that may or may not mean anything. Actions are what count.

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Actions speak louder than words bro.

If she wanted to see you by now she would have. And the fact that you're posting about this on the forum would only suggest to me that you're gut is telling you that she's not interested and you're looking for one of us to give you hope. Because if you thought she was you would of been asked her out like you did the first time, you wouldn't be waiting to ask us.

Give this a read: pua-lounge/topic190620.html

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PostPosted: Tue Mar 15, 2016 9:20 pm 
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No, it's definitely not a bad idea. If she wasn't interested at all, she probably wouldn't keep up with the texting. Girls like it when guys assert themselves and ask them straight up to go on a date. Have you tried asking her before?
Oh really? She has been texing him for a month and no meet! Surely she is just enjoying the attention - thats it.


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PostPosted: Tue Mar 15, 2016 9:24 pm 
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Actions speak louder than words bro.

If she wanted to see you by now she would have. And the fact that you're posting about this on the forum would only suggest to me that you're gut is telling you that she's not interested and you're looking for one of us to give you hope. Because if you thought she was you would of been asked her out like you did the first time, you wouldn't be waiting to ask us.

Give this a read: pua-lounge/topic190620.html
Spot on my friend....


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