Hey I'm new but had a few posts and follow the forum and i would say I have already learnt a great deal from where i started already so first of all thanks for that.

Anyway since starting this year i have gone from being afraid to speak to girls and not only girls just people in general being socially anxious to now 80% not caring, still a little to go but i am getting there fast!

Although i haven't got the best game yet or even average game yet its a start. I have had numbers and slept with a few girls already but that is basically from being tall and having a good body. This quest i am on isn't for sleeping with girls for me its about facing a fear on social anxiety and i have gained so much confidence through this i have gone from hating having my picture taken and suffering from body dysmorphia to basically not caring and feeling attractive.

Anyway that went on longer than i thought but just want to say i greatly appreciate the community here because i feel it helps and for anybody new starting it is true you have to just take it by the balls and face up to it. Start slow approach 1 girl just 1 girl one night then slowly build on that if you really have to.


My question where i come for help again is so when i meet a girl and sent her a text the next day basically just saying "Hey name, genuinely enjoyed meeting you last night" then i go from there but after that i don't want it to fall into a boring interview type messages because thats just not fun for either of us. Do you have any questions you use to make it interesting or do you just try and merge the text into a moment from when you met? Can i just drop a totally random thing into the message like straight out of the blue?

I did do a quick search and find some useful stuff but was just curious if any of you guys have any other tips.

Once again thank you!


EDIT: just to add i do try keep it straight to the point but this is basically for building a connection mainly. One girl i met she replied to my text the next day but my 2nd text was a "Hey are you free to go to this place" and she flaked because i hadn't built up enough rapport with her from the previous night etc

Sorry mate but I don't this is a good opening text message at all, I'll be surprised if you get any replies out of 10 numbers with this one.

There's loads of good text message openers, just do your homework and read lots of posts or use google to find a few you want to run with that suit your style.

Your message tells her too much mate. It basically says "I really like you"

its also what most other guys do too, so you won't stand out much with that. She gets that all the time, guys falling in love with her immediately after one date.

She now knows she could have you now so easily and girls like a challenge to feel like they worked to get a guy.

Because its not interesting enough to capture her interest, she probably won't reply.

A better one would be "I've been thinking about something you said last night...".

This would be better because, it doesn't tell her really anything at all, and she will have to reply to find out what it is you've been thinking about and it appeals to her curious nature. She'll also wonder what it was that she said, and knowing girls they say a lot of stuff so it could be anything!

When she replies, assuming she's not busy then she's into dialogue with you again and its game on.

I would wait at least a couple of days now til the evening when she's not distracted with work/shopping or whatever and would have time to reply to your next message

Hope this helps,

MOA71

P.S. Don't take the line above too literally, I just made it up to illustrate the points above although it SHOULD work for you.