So i have been using tinder for a few weeks now and i'm liking it but having a bit of trouble getting used to the whole idea of it.

I am not getting a huge amount of matches, that's not my problem though.. i'm getting enough to be happy and have girls to talk to.. that is the problem though.. so far it's only talking to.

i started off by just talking to them on tinder, as you would expect the conversation eventually fizzles out and we just stop talking. so i thought fuck that and made it my intention to get their phone numbers to add them to SPAM straight away. which is weird, girls seem more than happy to give me their number for SPAM but not their number if i ask outright for their number?? doesnt make sense to me but anyway...

after talking to them on SPAM for a while the conversation again just seems to fizzle and nothing really comes of it and to be honest a good part of that is i get bored, i lose interest in conversation by text easily and lose motivation..

so i was thinking of trying to arrange a meet as fast as possible with the next girl i want to meet.. not entirely sure how to do it without it being a bit weird as i'll be pushing for the meet pretty early on. i was thinking of just trying a full honesty approach. "so how about we arrange to meetup for a drink sometime soon? I don't think we could get to know each other properly by text and i hate seeing conversations with good girls fizzle into nothing as they mostly do when you just text for too long"

is the day you start talking too soon? should i even be asking here and just trying for myself lol? all this tinder crap has me confused in all honesty.. doesn't seem like it's a part of the scene that should be ignored but it just seems like hard fucking work or am i just overthinking it all?

thanks anyway.. let meh know guys

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What are your intentions with these girls? Sex?

well yeah.. staying open to relationships at the same time though.

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Really? Cause originally you said your intentions were to get their phone numbers.

You need to talk to girls with balls behind it. Be direct. Let them know what you're all about... Fun guy who likes to have sex.

Kinda seems like you need to loosen up a bit to be honest...

Video chats and phone calls man.

For whatever reason I video chat pretty much acts as a first date. The girls are usually comfortable to just come right on over to your place after a SPAM or two. Ask for their number for FaceTime or for SPAM instead of whats app and video chat them. If they can't video chat just call them. If you're social skills are on point you can knock out 30-45 mins on the phone building an emotional bond easy. Hit the right buttons and they'll be asking you out.

Its ABC to get laid with all of the available technology we have nowdays.

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just wanted to update quickly... decided fuck it and got straight to the point and told a couple of the girls i am speaking to that i dont think that texting is a great way to get to know people so we should meet up... obviously not them words... anyway 2 girls wanted a meet and agreed with texting before you have met is bs... full honesty and being forward is clearly the way forward

think i am done pussy footing around

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I might have already asked this but do you find they're receptive to a video chat before a first meet? It seems like it's asking for a lot of investment (vs a text/SPAM) and they might be put off

Why else would I say that?

As a leader you're guiding, not operating only within what they're receptive to. Are all girls receptive to sleeping with you on the first night? Can you get them to be receptive? How so? By leading.

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Cheers. I'm having trouble where I lose the girl after a few SPAM messages right now. They reply a bit but then it goes dead. I'll try calling

Did you say you just call without warning or you try to arrange a time first? Again, I'm sure I've asked you before so apologies for the repeat question

I just call.


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