Quote:
See, statements like the last one are rooted in scarcity and failure to look at yourself and see where you're lacking. Been to, and lived in many cities in the U.S and countries in the world; its just a plain falsehood that to be with hot women, you require all these headgames and who's chasing who nonsense. I get where it comes from; its easier to find girls who need alot of validation and game playing to keep their interest ; its harder to look at what girls you get and accept that you need to increase your internal value and mindset. Just like the girl who accepts men who will hit them will think, well getting beaten is just part of the game.
I don't know man, this reads as kind of a platitude. Lots of "feel good" here but not much actual effective measures for results.
U.S. women have been corrupted by social media. They have ten guys hitting them up at any given time. They are drowning in dudes.
You better stand out (physically fit, humorous, charming, good in bed, etc). You are in constant competition.
Quote:
I even get the whole emphasis on who is chasing who; its easier to have a woman who is blowing up your phone and going crazy for your ATTENTION due to X mind game you're playing, than one who is crazy for YOU.
I see another platitude here. If she's calling you to meet, she's into you.
Quote:
I dont agree with it though, because the walking that thin line game of she's crazy for you if you're cold and you cant show any emotion unless its planned just sounds like too much work for me. You're reading a girl's messages like the FBI hunting a serial killer, if tomorrow you gave her a compliment you may lose her completely. All sounds so stressful, and unecessary, all that work for a girl, because you think thats just what it takes. I don't doubt that your experiences have given you this view that it's all this extra shit needed, thats why i say you should look at why you can only find hot girls like this.
Yeah, this is better advice. It's probably true. But, let me give you context:
I'm 40, and I don't date women over 30. There's a lot of shit a 20 year old frat boy can get away with that I can't. There are things a 32 year old can get away with that I can't. The greater the age difference, the more you have to keep it cool if you want to hang with really pretty 20-somethings. The girl in this thread is 20.
Quote:
As you said, you have to play your cards right till she's hooked, but from your previous description, she'll never be completely hooked, and once you show emotion towards her...poof.
That's a valid point.
I did show emotion to her the other day... and she seemed to respond okay. She spent the night last night.
Quote:
Im not knocking you, I actually admire that persistance...I'm just too lazy. Checking a girls phone and stuff to see whats up....having to even think i couldnt express myself how I wanted to? Thats work.
Remember though, I'm still in the early stages here. And if you look at the texts, guys who do that get obliterated/faded because it's feminine behavior.
Quote:
Lets be real, you'll be checking this girls phone again any chance you get to see where you stand with her.
Valid fucking point, and an insecurity issue on my part that needs to be worked on. But still an incredible learning experience.
Quote:
PS-Lol you know her friend didnt show you a text message from her...you saw it on her phone.
Yeah. I tried to edit the original post to show congruency, but that feature had expired. As valuable as the experience has been (applying it to all women) I'm not proud.
CHAT
I really like this girl, and even turned down a request from two dancers to spend the weekend at my house.