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 Post subject: Small Town
PostPosted: Wed Feb 10, 2016 1:36 pm 
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I live in an outrageously small town where there are simply no decent social gatherings. The online communities within a reasonable distance are dead as well. How does one go about meeting new people in such a situation?

The closest city is 40 minutes away. I would have no trouble in making this journey, although I feel as though this distance wouldn't go over so well with a date.

If I'm being vague, call me out on my dumbassery and I'll clarify. Thanks!


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 Post subject: Re: Small Town
PostPosted: Wed Feb 10, 2016 1:44 pm 
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As long as the town has a couple thousand people or more, no worries. Women are around. Just speak to them when you see them. You don't need a social event or a bar to speak to a woman.


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 Post subject: Re: Small Town
PostPosted: Wed Feb 10, 2016 7:37 pm 
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I'm from a small town and I can udnerstand what you're going through. It's really frustrating because there are so few people to talk to and chances are anyone who's worth talking to has probably either been in a relationship or there's been so many terrible approaches and orbiters that it makes it annoying to talk to them.

There's also the risk of getting a reputation which is the problem I'm running into.

I can't speak for all of them, but I would venture to say a decent amount of the veteran guys who consistently pull are in larger towns and cities that have a constantly flow of people to talk to. It's pretty much essential to getting good at this. There's no secret formula or way of doing things other than getting as much practice as possible. It's simply a numbers game.

My advice would be to expand your online game, travel within reason to places with a larger population, or do whatever it takes to get out of the small town and live somewhere with more of a pulse.

Like the saying says, you move to the city to live, and you move to the burbs/country to die.
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As long as the town has a couple thousand people or more, no worries. Women are around. Just speak to them when you see them. You don't need a social event or a bar to speak to a woman.
^ It's socially an uphill battle that often times isn't worth it as I'm finding out. I'm currently in what i consider hell because of the type of reputation you get failing at pick up attempts in such a small pond. It's the story of the big gold fish that gulps everything in a small fish bowl; eventually that gold fish has to shit and boy is it going to suck in a small fish bowl :lol:


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 Post subject: Re: Small Town
PostPosted: Wed Feb 10, 2016 9:05 pm 
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OP, if you are in a small town and you already have your meeting women chops, and you aren't approaching with canned verbally-direct openers you can meet plenty of women without being labeled. The key is to not look for certain designated spots to meet women. You can meet them anywhere you happen to be. Pick your spots and be socially calibrated.

Even in a city with a population of 10 million, if a guy frequents a certain area or spot and runs spam game or something, there is a decent likelihood he gets labeled in that area.

While it's better and easier to meet women when there are more of them around, I've PM'd with guys on here who complain that they're in a tiny town and it turns out the town is in the tens of thousands. Often, the town size thing is just an excuse.

If nothing else, if you're not up to speed on this stuff, go to the city on your off time so you can "practice."

Or move. Chances are however (unless your present town has a few hundred people) you'll find another excuse there. As in, "the women here in this big city are (fill in the blank)." Such broad generalizations always say everything about the speaker and nothing about the subject they are trying to generalize. For the moment, make do with what you've got and give it your best effort.


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 Post subject: Re: Small Town
PostPosted: Wed Feb 10, 2016 9:55 pm 
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40 Minutes is not that far away.

If you're serious about game you need to understand it is a lifestyle. You need to think about the direction you want to take your life in the next few years and begin to consciously shift it in that direction.

8 months ago I dropped out of university and came back to my small home town for a small while. I still traveled to the clubs that were actually 45 minutes away for myself and still got laid a lot during the period. But honestly it was harder and it just wasn't enough for my appetite.

The last 6 months I've been working on shifting my life to my city centre and heading in the direction that I want to take things for myself. I've now got myself a job in a field I love smack bang in the middle of my city and have moved into my own apartment within walking distance of everything. I meet hot girls every single day going about my life now, I can be out on a weekend within half an hour of making the decision to go pick up girls at the clubs if I want too and I have decent logistics for pretty much everything.

Small towns are fine and it's not impossible to get laid. But for me they are boring and full of people lacking ambition. Families, kids and old people... this is not the place for a player to be. The only reason I want to be in such a place is if I'm passing through or visiting somebody I know.

Life in the city is so much better. The pace is faster, it really brings out the hustle in me, and with a high volume of women to choose from every day, it's like being a kid in a candy store.

If you're serious about pick up you need to treat it as a lifestyle. Would you go fishing in a pond with very little low quality fish if there was an ocean of large great quality produce right next to it?


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 Post subject: Re: Small Town
PostPosted: Thu Feb 11, 2016 12:16 am 
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40 Minutes is not that far away.

If you're serious about game you need to understand it is a lifestyle. You need to think about the direction you want to take your life in the next few years and begin to consciously shift it in that direction.

8 months ago I dropped out of university and came back to my small home town for a small while. I still traveled to the clubs that were actually 45 minutes away for myself and still got laid a lot during the period. But honestly it was harder and it just wasn't enough for my appetite.

The last 6 months I've been working on shifting my life to my city centre and heading in the direction that I want to take things for myself. I've now got myself a job in a field I love smack bang in the middle of my city and have moved into my own apartment within walking distance of everything. I meet hot girls every single day going about my life now, I can be out on a weekend within half an hour of making the decision to go pick up girls at the clubs if I want too and I have decent logistics for pretty much everything.

Small towns are fine and it's not impossible to get laid. But for me they are boring and full of people lacking ambition. Families, kids and old people... this is not the place for a player to be. The only reason I want to be in such a place is if I'm passing through or visiting somebody I know.

Life in the city is so much better. The pace is faster, it really brings out the hustle in me, and with a high volume of women to choose from every day, it's like being a kid in a candy store.

If you're serious about pick up you need to treat it as a lifestyle. Would you go fishing in a pond with very little low quality fish if there was an ocean of large great quality produce right next to it?
This. All of this.

I've actually taken the liberty of recording myself approaching in my current small town and honing my craft (or lack there of currently). I don't give a shit about getting laid right now because i know in 6 months I'm moving. It's all about making the interactions you have count in small towns.

Most of these "professionals" don't live or work in small bumblefuck towns if you haven't noticed. They live in high population cultural centers. Not a town of 7000 people who's only activity involves going to church on sundays.

PM me. I feel like we have the same mission here and could help each other out


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 Post subject: Re: Small Town
PostPosted: Thu Feb 11, 2016 1:22 am 
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What the fuck? Move to a bigger city.


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 Post subject: Re: Small Town
PostPosted: Thu Feb 11, 2016 3:00 am 
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Burn as many bridges as fast as you can and then move.

Because both things are going to happen anyway.

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 Post subject: Re: Small Town
PostPosted: Thu Feb 11, 2016 7:27 pm 
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So its impossible for you to meet people and you came here to cry about it?

Sacrifices have to be made for everything that we want in life.

Make yours or accept defeat.

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