The best advice I've ever read on escalation is 60 year's of challenge "fearless, relentless escalation" pdf. It's free, just search for it on google. I recently read it again to brush up on escalation principles and summarized the main points as such:

- Escalation is attractive
- Best ways to escalate are with seductive eye contact (“escalating the vibe”), getting closer and touch
- Best way to react to resistance is through non-reactivity (remaining silent with slight smirk) or re-framing her resistance (“aww, you’re so shy”)
- Whenever you REACT (via facial expressions) or RESPOND to her resistance, then you make it real
- You escalation goals are 1. To create an “It’s On Moment” (a moment of MUTUAL, PHYSICAL escalation) and 2. Bring her to the Arousal Point of No Return
- Best way to create an IOM is to put out your hand for her to take and transition to mutual hand caressing (can calibrate with “incidental” kino like moving closer to see if time is right to go for an IOM)
- Attraction and sexual tension b/w men and women naturally exists – it’s your job to show you can handle tension better than her and not break it by doing things like laughing, joking, fidgeting etc when there is an uncomfortable moment – let her be uncomfortable, it’s not your job to make her comfortable
- Expect her to reject your escalation on the first try – it’s really about the second try
- Resistance to a woman is no big deal, it’s part of the game – it’s men who think they should give up after encountering some resistance