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PostPosted: Wed Feb 03, 2016 11:53 pm 
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nice. it sounds like she was already pretty into you. Would you have done the same if she didnt give you eye contact and you were really attracted to her?
People constantly make eye contact. It's training yourself to give signals to women so they return them to you. Our eyes met, so I smiled. Because of that it caused her to smile back. I think PUA calls this forcing an IOI, but it's a signal telling someone that you're friendly.

Could you give me some last piece of advice on this short scenario i had today?

I'm leaving class and walking downstairs I see a girl sitting down about to get ready to study she looks at me as I walk down the stairs and we make direct eye contact. She then smiled first and I gave her a light smile back. At that point I just walked by that was it.

If I see her again tomorrow I will definitely walk up to her and introduce myself and keep it pretty general.


What do you think of a situation like this ? what would you have done?


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PostPosted: Thu Feb 04, 2016 12:47 am 
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If I see her again tomorrow I will definitely walk up to her and introduce myself and keep it pretty general.


What do you think of a situation like this ? what would you have done?
I would have done pretty much the same thing as I did in the restaurant. The situation isn't much different.

Are you saying you'll keep it general in order to play it safe?

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PostPosted: Thu Feb 04, 2016 1:26 am 
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If I see her again tomorrow I will definitely walk up to her and introduce myself and keep it pretty general.


What do you think of a situation like this ? what would you have done?
I would have done pretty much the same thing as I did in the restaurant. The situation isn't much different.

Are you saying you'll keep it general in order to play it safe?
I would keep it general because I dont want to the girl to feel creeped out that some random stranger is asking so many questions or something like that if you know what I mean. Correct me if i'm wrong. What are some DONT's that you would advise when approaching a women you never spoke to before.


As far as body language could you give me any basic tips?


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PostPosted: Thu Feb 04, 2016 2:32 am 
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I would keep it general because I dont want to the girl to feel creeped out that some random stranger is asking so many questions or something like that if you know what I mean. Correct me if i'm wrong. What are some DONT's that you would advise when approaching a women you never spoke to before.


As far as body language could you give me any basic tips?
Don't approach her thinking negative. That's going to affect your body language. Shake off the nerves and just be your normal you because that's who you want her to like. You can tell her that you saw her the other day but didn't have time to introduce yourself. The thing that you don't want to do is walk away without finding out her name.

Women don't get creeped out if you find them attractive. They want to be found attractive. The creep out factor usually happens when you stare too long. If you try to hide attraction you may as well not approach her. Give her something that makes you look like a sexual option.

As for the whole body language thing... Be confident. If you're confident it's going to reflect in your body language.

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PostPosted: Thu Feb 04, 2016 3:04 am 
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I would keep it general because I dont want to the girl to feel creeped out that some random stranger is asking so many questions or something like that if you know what I mean. Correct me if i'm wrong. What are some DONT's that you would advise when approaching a women you never spoke to before.


As far as body language could you give me any basic tips?
Don't approach her thinking negative. That's going to affect your body language. Shake off the nerves and just be your normal you because that's who you want her to like. You can tell her that you saw her the other day but didn't have time to introduce yourself. The thing that you don't want to do is walk away without finding out her name.

Women don't get creeped out if you find them attractive. They want to be found attractive. The creep out factor usually happens when you stare too long. If you try to hide attraction you may as well not approach her. Give her something that makes you look like a sexual option.

As for the whole body language thing... Be confident. If you're confident it's going to reflect in your body language.
thanks I appreciate it,

lastly is it bad to smile or laugh alot when you're meeting a girl? I know this sounds like im overthking but I always thought women are more attractive to men who smile less whereas its the opposite for women.


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lastly is it bad to smile or laugh alot when you're meeting a girl? I know this sounds like im overthking but I always thought women are more attractive to men who smile less whereas its the opposite for women.
A smile is great if you want to appear friendly and it adds to your overall attractiveness. If you force a smile, it'll look fake and can be spotted really easily.

As for laughing...it's fine to laugh if something is funny.

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PostPosted: Thu Feb 04, 2016 6:23 am 
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lastly is it bad to smile or laugh alot when you're meeting a girl? I know this sounds like im overthking but I always thought women are more attractive to men who smile less whereas its the opposite for women.
A smile is great if you want to appear friendly and it adds to your overall attractiveness. If you force a smile, it'll look fake and can be spotted really easily.

As for laughing...it's fine to laugh if something is funny.

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could you give me any advice on how you did it? I'm assuming it was situational? I think I am awkward honestly, need to find a way to break out of it lol. engineering school really screwed up my social life.
I sure can...
I was in line at a mom and pop Mexican food restaurant and there was a Latina girl sitting down at a table. We caught eyes I smiled, she smiled back, and I continued to wait. Once I made my order, I sat down to wait for my food...we locked eyes again. I got up walked over, extended my hand to her and said, "Hi, my name is Jack". She shook my hand and told me hers. I asked her if the food was good there (which I already knew since it's one of my favorite spots) and she said it was her first time. I asked if she lived nearby and she told me the apartment complex she lived in. I said how one of my friends used to live in it. She started going on about how she's ready to move to someplace better, telling me about her loud neighbor above her, and how far she has to drive to work. Just a lot of small talk. When her order was ready, I asked for her number and told her I enjoyed talking to her and we should meet up and hang out one night. She gave me her number and left. When I walked outside with my food, she was still outside. I joked with her saying, "are you waiting out here to follow me home?" She started laughing and saying that she wasn't. I told her if she wanted to she could follow me and she laughed some more. She said that was free to meet on Thursday night and I said that I'd see if I could swing that. Told her today that we'll figure out something to do on Thursday.
Ah, now pieces fall into place.

Defence + attraction was created at first glans on eye contact + smile. Most likely did you slightly tilt your head if I manage to get your profile correct?
This is a sign of harmless and inviting gesture. Once you came up to her, she perceived you as harmless (by your smile) and thus ready to establish a bond. Fear is not associated to attraction, which harmless is associated to comfort which leads to attraction.

Fortunately nothing is black or white in psychology. That's why I love it.

To OP though: Girls tend to be off while surrounded by girls because they have close to no time to in fact relax and feel safe. It's a hard shot to go with that opener on a guy-guy-girl scenario. Might also be dependent on how you approach her - i.e. how threatening you approach. Unfortunately not everything is about "open body language/gestures" either. Thats what "dating gurus" tell you but not what psychology tells Us.

So to answer your questions: Its a bad opener unless you do the magic BEFORE YOU invite yourself to her life.


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Most likely did you slightly tilt your head if I manage to get your profile correct?
No idea if I tilted my head.

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PostPosted: Sat Feb 06, 2016 6:33 pm 
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OP: I'm going to hypothesize your body language isn't good. I've used simple introductions to start and interaction and the response has been favorable the majority of the time.

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