I see what are you saying, and it has sense. Like J. Daniels said it's more of an art, and I would add, it's more situational topic.
Theories can and don't have to apply, you have to possess impeccable cognitive skills to determine what kind of a person you're dealing with so you know what rules and frame you'll place her in. Nevertheless. I respect your opinion because I didn't think that way before, and conversations like these only reminds me of how little I know and how much can I learn.
EDIT: I didn't see the last response:
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Think of it as spinning plates. If you're spinning 10 plates and one drops, you'll be a little annoyed but at least you've still got 9... still pretty impressive.
If you spin one, you try SO hard not to drop it, you try too hard, you drop it... and you've lost everything..
Nicely said.