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Dear Zip,
Say we were a couple a few months back, kind of lost touch because of the long distance relationship thing, and now you're coming back for Spring Break to my state and email me that you want to hook up. You mention that you're bad with keeping in touch with people and you're making an effort here. You even propose a few ideas for a date, like going to a movie or going shopping.
1) What are you expecting in my response email? Should I be re-initiating attraction or going to the later stages of comfort like you never left. Should I shoot down all of your suggestions for venues like those WWII prop planes on strafing runs and replace them with ideas of my own, or go with the flow?
2) Oh god I hope it's not awkward explaining why I stopped calling when that subject inevitably comes up. Tell me how not to make it awkward.
3) Mid-March is still kind of cold up here in NE, so you're in jeans and I probably won't be able to see if you've shaved your legs for the day. Any alternative indicators of your hospitality before I start breaking out all the candles and fluffy pillows? They're stashed somewhere in the closet and I just can't be bothered to dig through there every time you come over.
1.) What is she expecting? Honestly, who knows. This whole business of PUA is about circumventing the girl's ability to trump you. You set her up for failure. Alright. I'm done. Back to answering these questions like I normally do...
I'd say you have to re-establish attraction again. Not from the beginning, but maybe pick up like it's A3 (If you're following Mystery.) Breeze through re-establishing attraction in person, and move along. She's said she wants to hook up. Basically, just don't be a douche. If a girl is attracted to you, is projecting that attraction online, all you have to do is convince her that she was right.
2.) What were your real reasons for not calling? Simplify it so she isn't totally offended, and "get all real on her ass." Then, swiftly move on. This works like an A-Bomb neg.
3.) Dude, if she's the one who busted out the "let's hook up" visit vein, she's shaved. She's willing to go. All you have to do is make her feel comfortable in her wanting-to-hook-up statement of interest.
Girls prepare. "Self-sabotage" is something we employ if we haven't hinted at it earlier, or we want to wait. If she's the one who opened that topic in email, she's most likely ready to go. That doesn't mean it will be easy... it just means you're the only one who can get in the way of a hookup.
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Whoever said I was your friend, I dont like you and I live here
