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First & foremost thank you for taking the time to read my post & respond. I am sure among the millions of you out there, a few have asked these questions and received answers. For those who have not I hope this post can guide you in accomplishing your goals as I hope it does for me as well.
My situation:
I am a social butterfly at heart, however I have a difficulty building strong relationships with people. My social group consists of 3 sesperate groups if you could call it that. 1.) My best friend, who is a father and has little to know interest in pursuing women or friendships through the community's practices. 2.) A group of foreign students whom I have grown close to over the last 7 years. 4 men & 2 women, who happen to be in a relationship with 2 of the men lol. 3.) My girlfriend.
I have 100's of aquaintences whom I never speak to or try to connect with because after being in a relationship for a very lengthy time, I feel I have lost my social ability to connect, give value, etc. I no longer go out as My Gf is not social in fact, she doesn't dance or drink. She has a very limited social group consisting of co-workers of the same sex whom are in their early to late 40's. Mind you she is a very jealous women and has trust issues. So venturing out alone has its costs if even possible. Let's move on.
Goals:
1.) Build a huge social circle consisting of many hot women & cool dudes. 2.) Be the life of the party (Alpha Male) 3.) Meet women & men and befriend them. 4.) Meet women & men and befriend them with my Gf present.
Advice:
1.) I need advice on how to communicate with women without being friend zoned but at the same time being friend zoned. I want women to want me, see me as the alpha, but know that I'm off limits because of my Gf. I want men to see me as the coolest guy ever and add value to the group setting not take away.
2.) I'm a naturally flirty guy, how can I befriend women by myself and or with my Gf there to avoid jealousy, etc.
3.) I am lost when it comes to words and how to actually connect and build the friendship. Any advice here would be appreciated.
Thanks again for reading through my lengthy post and responding. I welcome and encourage any outside sources: links, books, etc along with personal experiences and advice you can give me. Happy New Year!!
I know this post is a bit older but I came across it all the same and I just have to ask. Why are you so intent on surrounding yourself with "hot women" if you are hands off and have a girlfriend?
You said that your girlfriend is not social and does not like the idea of the other women being around. If she is your girlfriend and you are committed to her on some level then why do this to her? If she isn't the one you are going to make your wife, then why not just stay single and accomplish your goal that way? At least then you will have something to offer these girls you meet that you want to want you.
The other part of this is you said you want these girls to want you but know you are hands off. I understand girls do this to guys and have those lurker guys that are on the edge of the friend zone secretly hoping the girl will one day come to her senses and love them but that is more because the guy wants that, not the girl. Yeah I'm sure she likes the intention but most women don't intentionally make them that way they see the guy as just a friend and he knows that but is just lurking as an orbiter.
If you meet and attract girls without the intentions of sex then why should they follow you around. Why not find another single guy? Granted you may be super fun social etc. but if you are taken in their eyes then why not move on unless your group benefits them in some way.
Based on your goals I'm surprised you are with this girl. Not saying you can't "have your cake, and eat it too" but it is easier to do this as a single guy than as a taken guy.
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