Basically, there's this girl that has been giving me constant smiles during our college lectures and would say hey/wave if I saw her around campus. I never bothered approaching as I had a girlfriend and she eventually stopped even acknowledging me. Recently, I broke up with my girlfriend and got our mutual friend to give her my social media info, so she could follow me (I am on vacation, so couldn't do it myself).

Anyway, I sent her a message after she followed me on Wednesday and we started talking for a bit. Eventually the conversation topic went to this big college Christmas Eve party which is coming up in our city. Basically, all colleges in our state have come together to throw this massive party in the city.

We got to talking about how we both plan to go, but that we will probably end up going there solo due to our equally flakey friendship groups. She said that she will probably go with a family member as they won't flake and I joked that even my family members are flakes. She said, "Well if all fails you could always go with your girlfriend. I'm sure she would enjoy it." (She heard I had a girlfriend). I told her that I recently split up with her, she asked why, I said she just wasn't the right one for me. Then she said, "I understand. Well, if Team Flake are up to their flakey ways again, (I feel your pain), you could hang out with me at the party if you want to." I joked that I have high standards to uphold and that if she wants to hang with me at a party she has to be able to do a mean Cha Cha, since that's my forte. She said, "Lol. Cha Cha at this type of party? I can't make any promises but I'll try my best to keep up with you."

I told her I had to go to the gym and ended the conversation after that and we haven't spoke since. Would you say she's interested or was just being friendly? Should I message her before the party on Thursday, or just say nothing and see her there?

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Why are you making repeat threads?

Like I mentioned on that post, ASK HER OUT. Forget about friends and social circles. Invite her for a drink, ONE ON ONE.

If she makes excuses, she isn't interested.

Please respond to your threads and at least TRY the advice before making new ones, ka peesh?

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Push back and see if she will lean on you too or you knock her down. (That's a metaphor. Don't actually push her.)

You've gotta show interest in her. If she likes you, she'll show more interest back. If not, she'll go cold.

Stop being such a pussy. You've gotta take a risk.

"Stop being such a pussy."? Did you even read my post?

I never approached as I had a girlfriend, I don't cheat or disrespect my partners. As soon as that relationship ended, I spoke to her.

I'm not quite sure what you mean by "push back". She asked me to hang out with her at the party. I indicated my interested by talking about dancing together. If the party goes well then I will ask her out on a one-on-one date. Asking her out on a date before the party has even happened, which she asked me to hang out with her at, seems needy to me. Let's get round 1 out of the way before planning round 2.

Are my posts invisible to you?

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I wish Dragula would post on this thread. He has good insights on this kinda stuff.

I was actually going to post this question in that thread, but I couldn't find it and forgot what I named the thread so I couldn't search it either, therefore, I just decided to start a new one.

If the party goes well then I will ask her out on a one-on-one date. Asking her out on a date before the party has even happened, which she asked me to hang out with her at, seems needy to me. Let's get round 1 out of the way before planning round 2, right?

For fucks sake. I wanted to do the whole "I know a guy named Dragula. I'll ask him what he thinks" but you already answered him. Fuck you, man.

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Hey, still doesn't work! Anybody?!

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Hey man,

With all due respect to my fellow pick-up artists, I wish not to intrude but to provide some intervention...

Firstly, I think you are moving a little too fast if you want to ask her out. I mean you seem to have enough IOIs, to move into comfort as Mystery would say, but you need to find out a little bit more about her in order for her not to join the flake group you have in your life. Don't get me wrong, I can tell she likes you, in fact because game is so vague and there is no one size fits all approach to game, she may go on a date with you knowing very little about you at all; very little rapport established. However, if you want to be on the safe side and have the outcome weigh highly in your favor, I would recommend some rapport and repartee before that party actually happens.

Secondly, correct me if I'm wrong, but you seem to have made a premature ejeculation by exiting the conversation with she made a banter exchange. When she said "I don't know about cha cha but I'll try and keep up" she was teasing you, had you teased her back, you would have had a serious opportunity to build attraction through text, with her.

Lastly, you seem to having conversation with her as 99% of other guys do, about school related and work related topics. Although this isn't entirely bad, as you can both fin common ground here, try and steer conversation towards things most guys probably do not know about her.

May the force be with you...

-Elijah

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But why update the old thread? Same girl, same scenario, same advice

You have 9 posts total.

If you search by posts i'm sure you will find your old thread within 9 seconds.


10k sperm and you were the 1st???

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