Hey,
Let me start off with some general info.
Had a wedding to attend last week. Saw this cute girl who at first sight seemed to be there with her bf.
So I didn't even try to get her attention.
The bride, my cousin, told me at the end of the party that the cute girl was still in fact single.
So I cold added her on facebook.
Below is the conversation between me and cute girl and how I tried to set up a date.
I would appreciate some honest information on how I did and what could have been better.

me: hey, you looked really great at T&J wedding. Only late minute did T tell that you weren't together with that guy in his red shirt. Now I'm just trying to do some damage control

her: hahaha, thank you. No he isn't me boyfriend

me: Well maybe he was trying to be fuck I want to re-do that wedding and introduce myself properly
ow, and order a pizza or 5 because the food sucked

her : no, I don't think he was trying to seduce me. I agree on redoing that wedding only if there is pizza.

me: you know what, let's go eat some pizza the two of us. stranger to stranger

her: ooooow, do you think you can handle that, hahahaha

me: I like a challenge, but you have to stay a good girl because I'm very shy

her : ow reeeeeeaaly ?.
her: poor thing

me: Well I do have a pair off brand new naughty shoes that I still have to try out. Do you have a pair ? ( common expressing in my language )

=> no reply, so I texted her the next day <=

me: did you just get shy

her: noo noo

me: so...you, me & drinks, non marriage related, possibly dangerous, is something we should do

her: ok!

me: saturday, drinks..deal ?

her: I already made plans to celebrate the start of the holidays

me: cool, so when are you free ?
=> at this point I realized my error and immediately proposed something different<=

me: Monday I'm taking you out for drink, perfect

her: haha, ok !

her: where are we going ?

me: something in the middle, nothing to crazy...I'll pm you.

her: ok!

=> didn't have time to text her the next few days <=
=> yesterday I texted her again to show her that I'm alive<=

me: (picture of pizza buffet at a wedding )
me: This would have been way better

her: yesssssssssssssssssssssss

-END-


So how did I do and what could have been better ?

thanks for the read !

Hi. Just wanted to comment so you'd see how cool the picture in my signature looks. It says my name. So cool. I'm kidding.

Firstly it would've been better if you approached in person, because adding on Facebook communicates that you don't have the balls to talk to her in person, like you think she's too good for you. If you treat her that way, she'll act that way. Girls don't like guys that they're too good for. Just a little warning.
Good
She challenged, and you responded in a pretty good way. I'd have probably said "I'm trying to behave myself" rather than "I'm shy" but it is still good. She'll be trying to bring "the real you" out, if she thinks you're being shy.
Are you trying to make it sexual here? Don't make it sexual until you're in person. Not even slightly.
I wouldn't have done this, but it did work out for you.
Should've just said "Cool. So when are you free? We'll do it. Don't come up with a specific day incase they're busy; especially a Saturday!
Don't "pm" her until Monday "I'll pick you up at 7" or whatever.

You shouldn't have text her again until Monday. You had no reason to. Any time you text after setting a date, you're lowering the chance of the actual date happening, and giving her more and more opportunities to flake! Don't worry about "keeping her" or whatever, just let anticipation do its thing and see if the attraction builds high enough between now and Monday.

Good luck!

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I grew out of the dumb shit I used to say on here. Most of my posts don't represent who I am today at all.

Thanks for the feedback.

I was indeed trying to be sexual because it was an important part that was missing in my conversations with girls.
So that is why I'm trying to implement sexiness into every conversation with a girl. Maybe I overdid it


again, thanks for the feedback.


( nice signature bro ! )

Avoid making it sexual online. Even when she tries, just tell her she's bad and tease her. In person is where you make it sexual. Girls that are sexual online, often flake. I know it's weird but they do.

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I grew out of the dumb shit I used to say on here. Most of my posts don't represent who I am today at all.

Sex is natural. If a girl is attracted to you, and somewhat comfortable with you and in a sex location sex will happen. You don't need to warm girls up for something that is so natural. Think your dad was texting your mom serial stuff and that's how eye got laid? Don't worry about that stuff... Get the date and just make a move.

ok, I'll keep that in mind.

I'll update this thread after the date.

she flaked

^ i really like this.

op, next time, chat to the girls in person as JDaniels advised.