| Yeah, certain people carry certain vibes that others pick up on intuitively.
Hot girls develop social and emotional intelligence in a certain way. Whilst a lot of guys are sat at home playing computer games when they're in their teens, the hot girls are usually always being social. They have guys showing interest all the time in all sorts of different ways. They quickly learn what certain cues mean, they start automatically learning how to brush 99% of the guys who hit on them off very quickly and they also learn how to spot a guy that is attractive and "gets" them.
The other 1% of guys, who this community thinks of as "naturals" also develop this social intelligence and understanding with girls, because they're the few guys that are spending all the time fucking and dating them. Girls and every "natural" seem to have very good emotional perception in others.
Most people can feel when somebody is confident and calm because you pick up on all of the sub communication they are displaying. The same thing when somebody is feeling insecure. The same thing if they're off and creepy. It doesn't matter which emotion it is, but other people, especially hot girls will pick up on your vibes. Naturals are confident, calm and sexual which is why they seem to "effortlessly" attract girls. They just emit all of the right sub-coms and girls pick up on that.
It's very likely that you're emitting awkward emotions to people because of poor inner game or some other issue that makes anybody with decent social intelligence to be repelled by you.
Look mate. I know you're only trying to learn and that's why you're posting on here and that's brilliant. But the reality is you are a LONG way from being good with girls. Most of your posts give off a chodey vibe, and even your user name displays all of the wrong things. It is your OUTLOOK ON LIFE that you need to change.
I think with yourself, you're going to have to put in a lot of effort over a sustained period of time if you really want to see any lasting changes in how you see yourself and how girls treat you.
The only advice I can give at this moment is to take a good hard look in the mirror. Make sure your appearance isn't fucking you over, and start to respect yourself. Observe a few attractive guys in movies and look at the way that they communicate with girls in the scenes where they're charming them. Make it a goal to just speak to some people over the next few weeks and be normal about it. Then, when you're feeling comfortable with people, start trying to flirt with a few girls here and there and see what responses you start to get.
Once you start getting some ok interactions with people, you can then build from there. But for now, keep it simple.
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