So I worked with this girl for 1 year 4 years ago. We were direct partners who worked in the same classroom. At the end of this year I told her I basically had a thing for her the whole time. Emotions took over her and she cried, she thought it was somewhat her fault. We talked that night for awhile and never kissed or anything, I was elated by her reaction alone.

4 years later she came to my hometown New Orleans to celebrate with her family. She texted me that she was coming. We hung out for a night, had a great time both of us. I told her there is no girl I've dug (without having a relationship) more than her my whole life. She said she liked me too. We kissed that night, and I walked her home. We said that we should see each other again sometime in less than 4 years. She went back to DC.

I'm not the only guy chasing this girl, trust me. Although we do have an interesting history.

Do I start phone calling and continue the relationship through that medium? Cute texts? Suggest we should meet in a random fun city? Meet her where she is? Not sure. I know she's interested but not committed to the idea of her and me. Any suggestions.

And she told me she would invite me up but her parents are in her room, which makes sense. I wasn't trying to have sex with her anyways, just trying to build something with this girl, she's special. I've fucked enough women.

She knows me as a cool and sincere guy who does good things in this world. Not some Jokester who's constantly push pulling (although sometimes I probably do this a little unconsciously). I'd like to stick within that frame (my true frame).

What do you want to gain? From what I'm reading here, you're calling this a relationship and even though you've known her for years you guys are nothing but acquaintances. I think you are putting the cart before the horse because at this moment in time you only know what she wants you to know about her and everything else you are romanticizing. Ffs, you're an MPUA and you haven't had sex with her yet and you're dumping all your feelings on her. If you start pushing a visit and this "its only you that matters" attitude on her after she leaves, she is going to go into hiding.

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It's not boyfriend girlfriend, but like any two people that know each other it's a relationship. I'd regret it if I didn't try with her. I'd rather be rejected than have regret. However you're right if I push too much she wouldn't like it, and it's not about just me.

A friend of mine says I should just go and visit her in DC, I'd like to see that city anyways and the fact that she's there might be the deciding factor. Talk with her on the phone a few times before suggesting this. I was thinking about texting her this.

How was the rest of your stay in NOLA?

Her: ;lkajfpoijdfel;kj

Me: Well hopefully it wont take another 4 years to see each other again. (this way I can get a sense how she feels)

If the response is good then suggest this...

Well maybe we can meet up in a cool city or something sometime if we can find a time that works for both of us.

My friend says it's too telling, I wouldn't be as interesting to her anymore. Not sure, not used to really being into someone and trying to make it happen. Anyone know?

You gave her all of your feelings. IMO, your friend gave you bad advice because you, him, her, and I all know that the real reason you want to go is to see her. If it doesn't go well, it's a bad trip. Now that you've put yourself in this position, she is sitting in the driver's seat. If it were me I'd talk to her, catch up on old times, flirt with her. What I wouldn't do is offer to visit. If she has any type of emotional investment in you, she'll ask you to visit her or offer to visit you(of course you may have to steer her to it). If she doesn't ask, she is likely wasting your time.

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This post reminds me of a shitty Drake song....

First off, how many women is "enough" ?

You wanting to build something means nothing to the fundamentals which it comes to creating and maintaining attraction. You guys come on the forum all the time, the guy that sees these attractive "cool" (by your standards) women who you want to cuddle with and not sleep with. And you know what happens to every guy that comes here with that frame of mind? They don't get the girl.

Women want to be desired. They don't wear make up and curl their hair all nice just so you can want to cuddle with them. They want to be cat called at, chased around, and hit on from the guy that they actually think is attractive.

I believe emotions is getting in the way of common sense here. You're seeing the girl once every few years? She doesn't even live near, and you've yet to have sex with her? What exactly is it that you know about her currently thats enough to make you want to build something with her? Is it because she's a 10? Or something else?

If you saw the situation for what it is, I.E. hot chick, I haven't slept with, that lives hundreds of miles away. You would find it a lot easier to get over this idea. You can log on any social media site and flirt with tons of attractive women that live that far away.

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