Firstly, i respectfully disagree with most of the advice given in this thread because everyone seems to keep focusing on dismissing female feedback for the purpose of getting laid. What I read from your original post is that you're trying to work on yourself BEYOND getting laid. Two out of the 3 groups you surveyed where your family and friends, and I'm assuming you're not trying to fuck either group and looking for ways to improve your relationships with these people or in these areas.

Now if this IS about improving your non sexual relationships, then I'd listen to the feedback. It DOES sound valid. Being mysterious is not something you'd want your friends and family to see you as. For eg, I have a male friend who you ask him a question about his weekend, he plays it mysteriously. Like after the weekend I'd see him and ask "hey how was your weekend?" and he'd respond with "It was fun." "Oh what did you do?" "Oh something." Now I'm sure he's not doing anything illegal, it's just annoying when someone is secretive about simple shit. My other friends think the same too. Guess which guy is the one who I see getting distanced from the group and then wondering why? Him. Because he's distancing himself. It's weird. It's annoying. For friends and family, just be open. You don't have to say last night I fucked this chick on my counter from starbucks. Just simple like I hung with this chick I met. If they are your friends and family its no big deal. It's called being normal. Your cousin isnt going to think "Oh...hector is so mysterious, I wanna fuck him." If they are good friends and family members, you and they should take interest in what's going on in the other person's life. That means sharing. You say you never ask your friends about dating. I do. My friends and I talk about who we're dating, how we met, how things are going. If they are my real friend, why would I not take interest in someone they spend time with?

Here's a newsflash. If you have some good friends/family who really know you and they aren't just complete noobs, they can give you better advice for dating than strangers online. They can tell you when you're wrong during an argument with you gf, or if you took something the wrong way because you always do. So don't be afraid to open up to the friends and family in your life. That's what they are there for.

For your sexual relationships, being mysterious is a good thing in the beginning, but if ex's are giving you the same feedback, and they broke up with you, I'd listen to it as well. In relationships you gotta be open. Find the balance.

As to your escalation stuff I wont speak on that because thats being handled. I just wanted to address your first post if I read it correctly