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haha deal!
Sure, well, for example... I went on a date last week with a actually really cute girl from tinder. We ofc started in a coffee shop, dragged her for a short walk, and then my plan was to move her to a more quite place. Couldn't do it because she had to go back home because of her parents whatever.... But we were like a usual couple, making out and shit... I seeded the pull, and we agreed to meet next Sunday for some drinks at my place. But now through text she is a bit flaky.
Now, this happen with quite a few of my first dates or even number closes from night outs. I know making out is nothing, but just feels like they are not ready to hang out with me like that yet and i need to put more extra work in building comfort (more text or phone calls). On the dates, they all seem to have fun but maybe because they just feel it is "because of the moment" i am not classified as "boyfriend material" so then they don't want to see me any more. Do you feel that i just need to STFU and put more effort to it?
When you say 'makeout' I'll assume this to mean you kissing the girl lips-to-lips and playing tongue-to-tongue and while doing so your fingers are playing with her nipples. After awhile, you're playing your tongue at her earlobe and rubbing your hands at her pussy. Then you're sucking on her nipples and grinding your cock at her pussy mound or ass while she's still wearing her skinny jeans. That's how I makeout so let's make this the point of reference since you provided very vague details.
Now, to the diagnosis. When you kiss a girl, your testosterone gets transferred to the girl via your saliva. Testosterone makes girls horny. However, if your testosterone is LOW, the girl will NOT feel horny enough for the f-close.
Based on the very vague and limited information you provided, your testosterone is low hence you are NOT able to make girls horny enough to proceed with the isolation and/or f-close.
To fix the problem, workout in high intensity, eat right, and get sufficient sleep. You also need to fix your escalation since it appears that you don't know how to turn on a girl yet.
You'll build trust and comfort with girls faster through hand holding, playing with or sucking on their nipples, or banging them. If you're not sucking on a girl's nipples, then you're NOT building any comfort at all.
Oxytocin is the trust and comfort hormone. Release it by playing with or sucking on women's nipples. But that's putting the cart before the horse. You gotta fix your natural testosterone level first to the minimum NORMAL level before even thinking of building enough comfort.
Hm... interesting! I mean it makes a lot of sense you are saying, but how can i make this happen is while i am meeting them at daytime? My makeouts are involved with kissing with tongue of course, but i am doing more light soft touching in the arms combined with rough hugs with hands around their hip, which makes them fell i have a boner. Also i also touch press their lower back which also makes them horny. Maybe i am blocking myself in not escalating too the sexual parts of the body and only doing it at home, and you are perfectly right that if you reach the sexual parts they will be down to the fuck! But the problem is that i am not making them even wanting to hang out with me alone. I am also escalating verbally.
And in my mind the problem twofold:
1) I am a thread - Not trustworthy, or not what they are looking for.
2) Not attracted - They just don't feel anything.
Since i am not a terrible looking guy and they obliviously feel attracted by my personality (get them on the phone, also get them to see me quite quickly), i am assuming that the number 1 is more likely.
In nightclubs that is easier to get, but i am not managing the friends right! But that wouldn't be a problem for day twos.
And again, funny enough, it works perfectly for girls with other nationalities. I am just not sure what i am doing wrong with the irish girls. lol