| Never thought I’d have to write such a cheesy named article, but alas – your emails questions have gotten to me!
K look, for those of you who have been following me for months (you’re awesome btw), you know already that my method is no method. My structure is non-structured. My mind is no-mind.
I would love to write a guide, a step by step manifesto, but it’s really useless! The simple fact is that the obsession people have with structure and technique and guides stems from a deep fear of the unknown.
That in itself is the problem!
Don’t you see that the unknown is the only place where growth takes place? The known, perfection, routine, comfort or whatever you want to call it is by nature stagnant – there can be no growth there, no progress.
The bottom line is, if you want real change in your life, you must develop a love affair with the unknown.
It begins here and now
“I know the way to Upper Tuddenham but if I were you I wouldn’t start from here”
Here and now is where it starts. Not tomorrow, not later, not some day. Here. Now.
The mental ‘kung-fu’ so to speak is to prime yourself with an excitement for your life the way it is.
What that means in practical terms is to live a life so fascinating, so interesting, that the past is largely ignored, and the future is uninteresting, because the way your life looks today is the most fascinating thing you could ever experience.
And that my friends, is where the challenge lies.
Is your life exciting? If you were an attractive, intelligent, passionate, fun woman, would you date yourself? Because if all you do is work and then spend your nights and week-ends watching Game of Thrones, are you seriously wondering why no woman sticks around?
If your life isn’t all that exciting – when will it be? When will you make the changes you dream of? What are you waiting for?
Get out there!
“They say motivation doesn’t last, but neither does bathing and that’s why we do it daily” – Zig Ziglar
What are you passionate about? What are you working to accomplish? When was the last time you got so lost in your own passions that you didn’t notice time go by, you forgot to eat a meal, you didn’t log in to facebook or check your texts?
That’s the way you need to feel every single day.
Basically, you need to find a goal so big, a dream so vivid that you jump out of bed in the morning.
Feel that? Good.
Now take that mindset with you everywhere you go. Feel that excitement for life and share that around.
How? Simple. Stop and talk to everyone. Tune your conversation the same way you tune your guitar. Pepper your life with new people the same way you pepper that new recipe you’re learning.
Yes, talk to any and anyone who strikes your fancy. From the gas station attendant to the old lady handling your bank transfer, to that gorgeous woman rushing to work in the morning.
People are people are people
That fear of attractive women you think you have? You don’t. You actually have a fear of people.
Every time I tell someone to go and talk to 5 new people a day, they brush off the exercise. In reality, most of them have as much trouble making friends with those loud guys at the bar as they do seducing the pretty girl next to them.
Do you see what I’m getting at yet? You can’t get good at meeting women everywhere – you can get good at meeting people everywhere. That they happen to be women is entirely up to your discretion.
Focus!
The last piece of the puzzle is to focus your attention on what you want.
Whenever you get anxious about something, your mind starts to shoot off in many different directions and before you know it, you’re paralyzed in fear.
Take a step back, take a deep breath.
Those people you wanna meet – why? Because you wanna make new friends!
“Ey whatsup I’m Pat. Just getting out there and meeting new people”
Now, that woman you saw rushing to work? Why do you want to talk to her? Because you can’t take your eyes off her!
“Hey I’m Pat. You look stunning, I just had to say something”.
Was that so hard?
The reason you feel that different environments require a different approach is because you are insecure – but really, what could possibly be better than being yourself? On the beach? Cool. Same shit. At a party? Yep, same thing. On the street? At the bar? In an elevator? IN CHURCH? Chill man, yes, it’s all the same. Just be you – and learn to love yourself for that, because others sure will.
The point is that when you are in such a great mood, when your life has color and meaning, speaking to strangers is fun. It’s not scary. And the more you get out there and talk to any and everyone, the more you get invited to more events and included in more circles which will allow you to meet more and more people and before you know it, you’re basically a superstar.
You’re welcome.
But it all starts here and now, with you.
Stay home and sulk, or get out there and meet someone. Just remember that your dream girl is out there somewhere, waiting for you to man up.
Your fan,
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