I did write this article over 10 years ago when I was learning about girls myself. This was before PUA was popular and MM and other systems existed. My method involved researching evolutionary theory, psychology, sociology, body language and social dynamics. For me, that was enough to get girls and a wife! Let me know what you think and if you think it still applies.

Attractive Women and Low Self Esteem

Believe it or not, attractive women have no more self-esteem than less attractive people. They may in fact have less self-esteem because a lot of what others say is quite inconsistent with their actual accomplishments. The world as an attractive woman sees it, is as follows: "No matter what I do, I get complimented. People always say that I do a good job no matter what I do, or how much effort I put into things. Therefore, either I am really good at things or else they are all lying. I think everyone is lying." Hence, attractive women discount much of the compliments others give them.

Thus, you should think twice before complimenting a good looking woman. The first thing on an attractive woman's mind is deception. Any compliment you give to a good looking women will be scrutinized. She will assume that you have alternative plans for her. Which you probably do. Because a woman looks good, this means that others have lied to her a lot, therefore she will be good at detecting lies

Some more facts are as follows. The more attractive a woman perceives herself to be, the fewer sex partners she has had. However, the better-looking the woman the more popular she is as a dating partner. Thus, women who are good looking date more, but have sex fewer times. They are also difficult to approach because they will only date men who are on the same level as them. As an aside, you can measure the degree to which any girl finds herself attractive and how much self-esteem she has by the people she hangs around with daily. The more unattractive her friends are, the less self-esteem she has, and the more unattractive she finds herself. This can be a bonus for you.

Walsh (1993) adds that attractive women are freer to employ the female reproductive strategy, and (Buss, 1988, 1989) in Walsh, 1993) adds that they have far more choice in terms of partners than less attractive women. Women in this category get to act more like a homosexual (or lesbian) relationship because they have the upper hand. They are the more desirable person in the relationship and hence are able to force men into conforming. Contrary to attractive women, less attractive women feel they have fewer of the attributes that men desire and conform to the male strategy so as not to be left out of the dating game.

For more information on dating and attraction, especially body language, check out my E-book - The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language found at www.BodyLanguageProject.com

References

Berscheid E. and K. Dion. 1971. Physical attractiveness and dating choice: a test of the matching hypothesis. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology 7: 173-189.

Buss D. 1988. The evolution of human intrasexual competition: tactics of mate attraction.

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 54: 616-628.

Buss D. 1989. Sex differences in human mate selection: evolutionary hypotheses tested in 37 cultures. Behavioral and Brain Sciences 12: 1-49.

Major B., P.I. Carrington, and P.J.D. Carnevale. 1984. Physical attractiveness and self-esteem: attributions for praise from an other-sex evaluator. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 10: 43-50.

Walsh A. 1993. Love styles, masculinity/femininity, physical attractiveness, and sexual behavior: a test of evolutionary theory. Ethology and Sociobiology 14: 25-38.

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This is very true.
Although there are some hot girls that are huge sluts and will have sex with many many guys not only for sexual gratification but for confirmation and approval of males.

I'm totally adding this to the "Worthwhile Threads" sticky. Good stuff, christopherphillip.

I think whats ultra entertaining is attractive girls competing to rise amongst the ranks of the social circle. Listening to literal nonsense of what they talk about no wonder they are what they are in life.

Just nothing special about them besides their looks, about all there is to em.

This is definitely a good read. I think if you treat a woman as an equal no matter how attractive she is. You will be better off. There is something to be said of the concept a good fit.

Women are indeed very entertaining from time to time. It would be funny to watch hot girls on a serious National Geographic program with a serious, scientific voice observing and talking about their behaviour, issues, bitch fights and competiveness in their "natural environment". I would enjoy watching it with popcorn and beer.

I'd much rather have a healthy secure girl than a fucked up HB10. To my opinion, secure girls are often more open and relaxed because they know what they want and they don't feel the need to raise their bitch shield always. Ofcourse this depends on the person as well.

Btw, I wouldn't think that people lie more to attractive women than to less attractive women. The less attractive girls are often the girls of whom people want to get rid off but who don't want to hurt their feelings in order to not make them cry.

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The thing with compliments is so true for hot girls. Recently I blew up a fling with the hottest girl I've ever been with. We are friends now but I asked her later on what made her get turned off. One of the reasons was that she said I complimented her too much. I think she's gotten too much compliments her whole life that she has consciously realized that she shouldn't be getting all these compliments. She called it pathetic and stuff like that. Man it sucks how you can go one day from being with an awesome hot girl who at one point thought that I would not be into a girl like her and whos totally into you to it being over.

Thanks for the post. I'm in the field of social research. And the citations you list are solid. Anthony Walsh is the man.

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Most attractive women are haughty, confident to the point of disdainful arrogance because they have been complimented so much. Honestly, some women love the compliments. Low self-esteem comes from embarassing experiences, inexperience, and a lack of nurturing. To large extent low self-esteem has a lot to do with your mindset and what you think about. Because hot girls are pampered with compliments they are not mentally independent; they are used to sympathy and moral support. So although they are confident they also have weak attitudes and mindsets.