Alright, so I met this girl at a festival about a week back. Lots of IOI's from her throughout the entire night. We text to meet up again and talk about all the stuff we can do (I'm from California and she just moved here about a month ago. Decide to be her tour guide. Text her about longboarding, going to the beach, and possibly smoking weed after.

We go to the beach and she completely shuts down on me. She doesn't want to get on the board (even though she said she loves longboarding.)

We finally hit the beach and she says "I don't like getting wet. I'll wet my feet but not anything else." Started giving excuses about being afraid of sharks/ some other BS. I brought a cooler full of stuff to eat/drink but she didn't bother with it at all. Finally I get sick of the act and tell her to call it a day.

I asked her specifically if she wanted to smoke before we got to the beach and her answer was a "I don't care hahaha!" (Yes.). I started to smoke and she started saying shit about being careful and how the cops might find out. What. The. Fuck.

This is the 3rd/4th time this situation has happened to me. I get tons of IOI's on the first meet, then when the actual date comes up, they go colder than ice on me. What's going on?

Why don't you take for a traditional few drinks instead of the being the eager tour guide.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZmivKyEY1Dk This is a typical woman deciding on what to eat.

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Hey bro.

It happens to everyone. I found that this only happens to me when I try to hard to impress her on the date and when I am not congruent with how I first approached her (lover vs provider).

By reading your posts I see you are not getting her to invest on the date at all. Demand the girl to invest in the interaction/date.
If I am meeting a girl at a place other than a bar (picnic or showing her around) I always ask her to bring the wine or the pizza or at-least something of equal or close to equal value of what I am bringing. This way you get her to invest in the date instead of just being given shit and she has to do nothing (The worst thing you can do to a girl who always gets given gifts and favours from guys is shower her with gifts and favours).

Also I don't think you are leading enough, what I mean is you are always asking if she wants to do something and then you do it if you have her approval. If you wanted to smoke, smoke.

(Do you want to go have sushi vs I know this great sushi place we can go to, do you like sushi)

SO lead and then check in with her if she is okay with. Maybe she hates the beach(she clearly didn't like water or getting wet)

This is all the advice I can give for now because I wasn't there obviously and I have limited details about the interaction! All the best bro!

Alex

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Date girls who are acutally cool I don't know what these girls are like, but I can't help but wander if they're ballerinas you're trying to take longboarding

Take them bar hopping and get to know them, then you can take them for these crazier dates once you know each other better and are comfortable with eachother. I don't like doing crazy dates like this straight off the bat, I like to wait until we are both into each other first. Too much planning and logistics for a chick I barely know and have no idea if I even like her.

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Way more pressure for a girl to go ice skating as opposed to a simple drink. It's cheaper and isn't needy either.

You're trying to impress her

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Thanks mate. I did everything I wanted to do. I rode my board, drank my beer, got in the water, all that jazz. I wasn't about to let her drag my good time down. I supposed I let her take the wheel too much as I kept asking if she wanted to do anything with me, even if I was going to do it anyways.

The getting her to invest part is good advice and I probably wont go on another date without it.

It's not like she didn't want to be around me though. When it would get silent she would always try to start conversation. She was smiling the whole time. It's just she didnt want to do anything but sit there. It was a huge buzzkill.

Because I made the mistake of offering her the choice of what we should do, but honestly, I would've suggested the same thing. Also, we're too young to go into bars. My place is an hour away and her dorm room doesn't allow men.

No problem man. I think she was just testing you to see if you could lead her. We live and we learn.
All the best
A

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