Ok so this is my first post on this website, sorry if this is the wrong section.

Met this amazing girl who just moved here not too long ago. She's 2 years older than me really smart and I'd say out of my league honestly. Basically she's everything I've always wanted in a girl. I'm tired of the stupid girls with no goals in their lives.. So I really need to play my cards right here because I know that if she gave me a chance she would really like me. I'm 22 btw and have not felt like this about anyone before.

Now with all that said here is my history with here (I'll make it quick). Met her through a friend about a month ago, added her on FB, got her number.. Now I've invited her to 3 events so far (2 of them I was going to pay for her which was implied) and she told me that she would try to make them but she never did. BUT none of these events were going to be 1 on 1. They were going to be in a group.

So finally my question! I've been trying to invite her to hang out so that I could pull her aside at a certain point and let her know that "I would like to take her out" instead of "hangout". She is so busy all the time that it's hard to see her in person. You think I should just ask her out over text or the phone? Everything is telling me not to, but what else can I do? If I wait any longer some tool will snatch her up.. Help me out here give me some advice!

Also she seems to respond well to my messages. We have been talking for a little bit and she always uses a lot of exclamation marks and smiley faces.

First and foremost change your mentality, she is either in your league or she isn't not the other way around!


[/quote]So finally my question! I've been trying to invite her to hang out so that I could pull her aside at a certain point and let her know that "I would like to take her out" instead of "hangout". She is so busy all the time that it's hard to see her in person. You think I should just ask her out over text or the phone? Everything is telling me not to, but what else can I do? If I wait any longer some tool will snatch her up.. Help me out here give me some advice![/quote]

Before arranging to meet up, ask innocently and jokingly, when she isn't busy...when she tell you a time day or whatever than that's when you ask her out...that way she will have no excuses that she is busy. If she ends up flaking then she isn't worth your time.

[/quote]Also she seems to respond well to my messages. We have been talking for a little bit and she always uses a lot of exclamation marks and smiley faces.[/quote]

then you should try building more attraction through text game, getting to know her better with questions and build a personal connection...this will make her want to meet you no matter what.


Hope it works out for you bro!

She is only amazing and out of your league because you're not immersed with pick up. You joined the forum with the intention of having a tactic to hook up with this one particular woman that you don't truly know yet. You have even posted it in the relationship section because in your mind you're Facebook official. This kind of needy thinking puts so much pressure onto this particular girl and she will probably feel this when you interact/contact with her.

Ask her out on a date. If she turns up, congrats. Sometimes with social circle stuff, they have to reply to you and meet up with you because they don't wanna hurt your feelings so I hope there is a mutual attraction for your own sake. Ignoring you on the texts makes them look cold and that awkward feeling when you're all hanging out the following weekend.

Read my sig link. Stop hacking and become instead.

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I'm not trying to "hook up" if that was the case I wouldn't have a problem. I don't want her to be another number in my book.. That's why I'm trying to do this right. No lies, no bullshit.

Problem is that you're deciding that she is the one before you know her.

Anyway, you know best.

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Yep.

You're not wrong about that.

Actually, you are trying to hook up. The only problem is that firstly you think there's something wrong with that, and secondly you've already decided she's worth more than that lol.

The need for anything, gets in the way of everything.

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I grew out of the dumb shit I used to say on here. Most of my posts don't represent who I am today at all.

Call the girl, ask her out and then move on with your life man.

You're already mentally lifting her so far beyond you that there is no way she's going to take you serious. Women want to be with men who they think are BETTER than them. And if you're valuing yourself as the prize with reasons for why you know that you are, its going to be challenging for her to see you as someone she should follow.

I'd suggest moving on all together, but I get the feeling you don't want to give up until you try. So call her and get it over with.

And in the future.. Don't ask girls to group events. Imply your interest, ask her out with just you two so there is no confusion as to what you want.

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