How can I get this HB9 waitress to meet me somewhere other than her work? I know she is attracted but claims to have a BF.

could you possibly explain the situation a bit more? bit hard to comment on that as don't really know the background!

Thanks for the reply. Here is the long post which no one responded to. I don't usually get away with staying out all night and I suppose she gets off at midnight or later. She only works Fri and Sat. She told me I can have anything I want darling when I asked for water.


I went in this Bar/Grill and this beautiful bartender is checking me out and smiling and stuff. I was with someone so didn't game. I went back with my friend after work one day and so I introduced myself. I complemented her etc, I was mostly just interested in seeing how she would act cause I have a chick. She mentioned she had recently started modeling. She was super sweet so later I ask for the Phone number. She cant give it to me cause she has a BF.
I go back for food one day and she is my waitress and sits with me for 20 minutes all flirty and stuff. She asks what my plans are tonight. I was kind of drunk and she told me about a roadblock.
I dont see her for 3 weeks or so and I go in and ignore her and she comes over and hugs me, where have you been and all that stuff. She is bartending and asks me my plans again and I said "I guess I'll stay here with you all night" She says she wouldn't mind. I left though because I had plans and would have been hammered if I stayed in there all night, plus look needy. I stopped by one more time and she was sweet as ever and had been there for almost 12 hours. She said her legs hurt and I told her to jump on the bar and I would rub them. She said the customers would enjoy that but didn't mention her BF. She asks my plans again and I said I was going home to get ready to race my boat the next day. I pay her and tip her and she is like "dont leave yet" so she comes back and tells me she likes my hair styled the way I have it.
I know waitresses and bartenders are pro flirts but she has flirted with me when I wasn't her customer and winked at me, told me I am funny etc. Her coworker mentioned she was close to being married. I think she may be shacked up. Her BF forgot valentines day if you can believe that.
I have a really good rappor with her. I will mention she is sweet to a lot of folks in the place and flirts with waiters also. I don't know why she asks my plans all the time. I am sure she digs me but we are both involved so what is my next move? I was planning to ask her to meet me somewhere after her classes, maybe for happy hour. Get her in a neutral location and ask her what she wants? I need advice I am not really wanting a bunch of drama with her BF she can keep him.

She could be toying with you but you have to go for it.

I don't think she is toying with you.

When you do isolate her don't ask her what she wants ensure she is attracted to you and then k close her.

try go somewhere where she won't feel paranoid about seeing with you.