Earlier on today I was at a job where two girls were talking about this very same thing. As I was sitting at the tatoo parlor one of the girls says to the other "How was your date yesterday ", the response was "he was great - such a nice guy but I think I need somebody else, I mean he is lovely and all but he just mumbles when he communicates and doesn't seem to be too self assured. He is easy to look at - lovely looks wise but I want somebody who can stand on his own too feet who isn't so shy".

As soon as she said that I was thinking of this topic - which pretty much sums up what some others have said. Off topic the other girl then said about how she was talking to somebody she met online who is 200 + kilos and that she feels sorry for him so she keeps talking to him and that is the only reason she talks to him, and that she doesn't wan to hurt his feelings. Felt compelled to tell her to stop talking to him as he is investing emotionally in her and would be increasingly doing so the more they talk but her friend pretty much said that to her.

This is rare I feel as in my experience - females generally don't communicate with you if they don;t have intentions of going further - perhaps this being a extreme case (the man has poor health etc) has caused this sort of response from her.

I'd say confidence, or perhaps both, but not looks alone. People usually say I'm good looking, and hot girls did indeed approach me back in the days, but they always lost attraction after a few minutes. I never got laid. That's why I became interested in pickup to begin with.

I will throw something in that may seem random. A third thing that creates attraction, that maybe requires some confidence but is still its own thing. A guitar! Playing the guitar at parties is said to be a pussy magnet. But I unfortunately I don't play the guitar myself. However, it's not the guitar in itself that makes the magic. Not the performance either, even if being good is an advantage. Can you guys guess what it is? It's a mix of things, and a demonstration of confidence is one (makes you sexy), offering value is a second, and the third is... *drumrolls* Social proof and being the center of attention!

That was a good post, made me laugh and I can also relate to your situation as I'm also good-looking (probably around 8-9) but they lose interest after a while cause I'm lacking this one bit but essential thing that could make a huge difference in my game. I rarely get laid, and when I do, let's say it was out of luck bc I can't replicate what I did anytime I wanted with almost any girls I want. It's frustrating....

If you're good looking and NOT getting laid, something is really wrong. Good looks+relatively normal guy (decent sense of humor, ok body language, not a shut in and somewhat of a regular social life) = you get laid a good bit. Most guys who are good looking and do not get laid, are severely deficient in an area. You dont need perfect body language to get laid alot. You dont need killer escalation to get laid alot. You dont need 100s of approaches to get laid. If you're not getting laid a decent amount and you're good looking, you either really weird in some way, or you dont go out enough.

Most guys, do not go out enough. Go out and just be social is really most you need to get laid. Talk to people, laugh with people, go to parties, go to activities...it's really not as complicated as it seems. MEET ALOT OF WOMEN/GUYS WHATEVER. If you're good looking, just being normal will often be enough to snag something. Girls will give you more leeway to escalate. If you're not good looking, go out and make moves. If you are good looking, go out and make moves...actually the good looking guy has more of an advantage because girls will make the move or give him more evident signals to escalate. Easiest way to get laid is to just go out and meet people. Confidence is good. Body language is good. Smooth escalation is good. But the majority of guys would get laid more if they just went out more and spoke to people and have fun.

Confidence all day

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You don't have to look like an athlete or a super model. Just don't be immediately repulsive like most guys are and are clueless about. Don't smell like shit. Brush your teeth. Wash your clothes. Hit the weights. Eat healthy. Pretty fucking simple.

If you have confidence, you won't be repulsive because a confident person takes relatively good care of himself.

A girl doesnt have to look at you and think "oh my god, hes soooo hot!" she just as to think "hey hes kinda cute" and then your confidence will make you hot.

That said, if she looks at you and thinks "ew, fuck hes ugly" then nothing is really going to help.

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