Now, I slept with this girl after dating her a couple of times. I think I got a bit too aggressive in bed, but she is the over-polite type who did not quite stop me. She did say later I was killing her and she could barely walk - I said I was sorry and did not realise but she said, Oh no it was great. She is not a straight talker so its a bit difficult to say if it was a cover up to her previous comment.

I am away for a few days but want her back. We are still conversing over text. Was wondering if I should call her and after some casual conversation, say sth along the lines of 'Hope I didn't hurt you the other night, I can get a bit passionate and you're too nice and you should tell me next time if that is the case.' I feel that if I do not explain myself and indicate the possibility of it not happening again, she may not come back to me. - Is that a good idea or do you guys reckon I'll come across as a wimp - someone lacking confidence/ reading into situations / feeling insecure etc. etc. ?

Why are you being so insecure?

I don't see in anything you've written in which she got away from you in the first place? Did she flake? Did she stop texting/calling? What are you talking about? From what I read it seemed like she was letting you know she enjoyed it. If you want to lighten up a bit next time do so, but you're thinking about this way too much. Get a grip on your confidence. Guys that don't do good in bed at all tend to get a second shot; she actually told you it was great.

She's just being transparent. Thats one of the greatest gifts a woman can give a man. Stop over analyzing her and just receive her.

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Dude, you fucked her brains out and she liked it, she probably never had a guy do that:p Trust me shes going to want more.

If you're afraid of hurting her, just have a safe word.

Cheers guys! Despite what I wrote, I don't think I am entirely incorrect in my assessment of the situation, but you are right - I should have more confidence. Its just that I lost the previous girl in this way.

Might have a safe word without sounding like a wimp I guess!

It mite get her thinking about what kind of stuff you're into

Hmmm sorry where's the problem here?