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hey im looking for advice on how i could deal with shallow women. basically when i go to say hey to a women, using the techniques from books and rsd and from what i've seen on here about body language and how to approach, i get the women looking at me up and down and say "ew" or make some sort of screwed up face then try to insult me in some way buy saying something about my height. im 5 ft 3, or by my disability. i've had girls push and punch me out of the way when i just simply say hey to their friend. this happens usually in bars and clubs.
i try to brush these off but it does bring back my social anxiety.
is there any ways i could deal with these situations if they come up again?
Hey Jim,
I'm terribly sorry to hear about your experiences. It's never easy and no one deserves to be treated that way.
There are a few things that you need to understand:
First,
don't take responsibility. Most guys think wayyyy too much about a woman's reaction to them. A real man, who has his shit together, doesn't even think twice about what a little girl thinks of him. He has too many passions and hobbies in his life to worry about something that ridiculous. Now in your case, women reacting to you that way is not your fault at all. Some people are just rude, and some women have a ridiculous sense of entitlement. Personally, I've seen it in younger women generally, as the older ones begin to realize their looks won't carry them for the rest of their lives, but 18-21 year olds tend to be some of the nastiest, most irresponsible beings on earth - and they are usually worshiped for it. Don't get me wrong, I adore women, what I'm saying is that some people are just nasty and there's nothing you can do about it, so don't take responsibility, it isnt your fault.
Second,
why bother dealing with shallow women? Seriously. Is that even the type of woman you want in your life? Essentially your question is 'how do I prove to these shallow women that I am good enough?' which is absolutely ridiculous. If a woman is rude to me, I won't even stay behind for the throwaway 'you're a bitch' answer or whatever. I stay completely silent, turn around and walk away. I don't have time to waste on people like that. All the women in my life are incredibly beautiful, kind and compassionate. Now, you're going to say 'well I want to learn to deal with them because they're hot and I want to fuck them'. Don't you see how that makes you just as shallow as them? You're willing to put up with being treated like shit just so you can maybe hopefully get a little. What are you communicating to these women? That you dont respect yourself. And if you dont respect yourself, no woman on earth will ever respect you.
Just something to think about.
to your success,
Mack
hey thanks for this advice, i appreciate it. since writing this ive come to learn to laugh it off these days is its them that has the issues and not me. also generally look at myself in how i approached and how i acted and reacted in that situation and calibrate myself for next time, continually learning from interactions. ive began to come to accept the way i am with being partly deaf and my height and try to use them to an advantage when i can in a social interaction. by acceptance i start to begin to enjoy myself and self amuse with good looking women and dancing the night away in nigh clubs with them while other guys try to steal her off me. when im in the best state of mind and having a good time, she usually stays with me as its usually the other guys begging her to go dance with them rather than me.
CHAT