Just need some quick advice needed really, I'm new to game and the forums but I believe *Hope* this is the right section to post in.

So i'm at a party tomorrow, I've only just started studying pickup and game the last few days (as in bordering obsession ) and I want to try out a few basic bits of game and see where I can get, I'm assuming going indirect will be best in this situation as at this party I 'know' pretty much everyone, they aren't exactly close friends, but friends of friends who I'll likely see again. Oh, and my recently ex girlfriend is going to be there.

I've never really gamed before, not while knowing what to do or what I was doing. And I've got ample opportunity to practice lined up the next few weeks. How do I go about gaming in this situation? Should I even try to game? Maybe just practice without an attempt at a close? Or should I just go for it reguardless of the people there? (there's one girl that hit on me while I was with my ex at the last of these parties and I've talked to a little in the weeks leading up to it, and another that is really cute but I've never really talked to.)

I feel my ex will probably do her best to make any female interaction difficult for me anyway (she virtually begged me back after breaking with me then turned to insults when I said no, so I blocked her).

Any advice is appreciated but the party is in 24 hours time, so be fast!

Thanks in advance,
Foqus

Welcome to the game!

Social circle type game is the most unique game. I recently cracked this code after a lot of cold approaches and being in a lot of social circle situations. Now, it depends how much you care about the social circle and staying in it. If you care at all about what people think, do this...

Talk to most of the people there early on. Learn relationship dynamics. That's one of the biggest tricks most guys fail at (and I failed at for a while). The girl may be showing you interest and be "single" but she may also be attending the party with a dude she regularly hooks up with. Odds of closing are very low, so going around talking to everyone and learning the relationship dynamics is key. The specifics on how to do that are a 2 hour lecture but it should all be very under the radar and body language will play into a lot of your judgements.

There become a pairing up time during any party. This happens about an hour and a half once the party is underway. Beware of the girl that is too drunk. While she may like you, the friends will pull her away. At the pairing up time, you need to lock in with a girl and stay by her side and eventually end up somewhere alone with her. There you will escalate by kissing and moving things forward from there.

If there is an available hook up location at the party, this is usually preferred unless the girls' friends are super protective of her and don't trust you. Then, they will do everything in their power to find you and ruin your set. If the friends like you, you should be okay hooking up at the party, but if it's easy to extract to a new location, go there.

Escalation is strongly discouraged in front of the friends. Don't get too drunk yourself. Be in theme (if there is a theme) for the party.

You should already have some rapport, which is to your favor. Stay away from harsh breaks in rapport. If you're from the Mystery Method understanding of game, think of that as a neg. But I discourage negs entirely. Negs are the only attraction builder that girls recognize as pick up fodder and you may lose a set if she gets weirded out by the PUA world.

Message me if you have more specific questions.

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Thanks for the advice and for being so quick with a reply.

This is definitely a great starting point for me to go off of and gives me a clear focus for the night - Socialise, relationship dynamics, lock in, isolate, close - good motivation to just go for it and see what I can find out about everyone, after all the goal is to practice game and have fun, I'm not going to be disappointed if I don't get laid my first time gaming

Any advice of dealing with the ex? I've a feeling it'll go 1 of two ways -

1. She chases me and tries to get me to end up with her
2. She tries to make me jealous and cockblock the entire night
(3. She does both ...)

Thanks again
Foqus

If you've never gamed before you're probably not going to go to the party and be super man. But its a great opportunity to get some experience.

Your ex can cock block you a little, but having a girl linger around you that you're not committed to only works to make you look more attractive to the rest of the girls at the party. Your desired. Thats going to help you a lot more than its going to hurt you. Especially at this stage of "never having gamed before".

Just be there and be social, hang with everyone. Network, make connections, build rapport. It ain't just about the girls. Theres guys there that know of more parties and more girls. Theres girls that know more girls as well. If its a small party, it would be better to just vibe with everyone one by one, get numbers, and build bonds than it would be to go in trying cave man a chick .

Thats where I messed up when I was a teen. I cared more about getting laid than the quality of the vibe in the room. So while I got laid, I missed out on a lot of social opportunities I could of taken advantage of. Theres a time and place at parties where you "know people".

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That's really helpful thanks, never saw my ex as social proof, there will be a few people I don't know that well so I think making connections and getting numbers as oppose to a kiss is a better idea.
Appreciate the help and will update.
Foqus