(posted in the wrong section, sorry for that)

Hi all,

So for about 4 months I've been getting pretty close with a co-worker of mine. She's 21 years old (I'm 23), pretty cute, very spontanious en has a nice booty Although she's cute I normally date girls who are a little hotter but we just have this amazing chemistry which made me like her a lot.

From the very beginning I met her I was gaming her and made sure there never would be any sort of friendship kind of relationship between us. She was really chasing me. When we are together we are always very flirty, have a lot of fun together, and a lot of kino. This kino also takes place in front of our other co-workers who sometimes then make comments asking if we are in a relationship or if we've had sex and stuff like that. She doesn't mind those comments. We didn't actually have sex, we only kissed a couple of times on a certain evening like 2 months ago.

At the point we were getting so close I was really thinking we were heading to a relationship, ofcourse I wanted sex first but it seemed like that was just a matter of (short) time.

Then last weekend we were having drinks with some people from work, everyone got pretty drunk and at the end when we were alone I wanted to kiss her again so I went for it. She politely declined, which I found strange. Then she told me she really really liked me, I was the best co-worker ever but she just saw us as friends. I was pretty drunk, so next day we talked on SPAM and I pretended I didn't remember the way she responded. She told me the same again.

The next day at work we worked together again and I actually was in an extremely good mood, being very happy, almost like I had the best weekend of my life. Ofcourse I was dissapointed in her response the da earlier but I really couldn't believe she doesn't like me more than friends. That day I was nice to her as a friend but didn't gave her any kino or flirtations To my big suprise she was in the worst mood I have ever seen her, especially to me. When we went with 2 other co-workers in the car, we were together on the backseat and she almost didn't say a word to anyone, only starring depressed out of the car window while she is very energetic and spontaneous normally. She was acting like I told HER we could only be friends.

Then by coincidence we were nearby her parents, so me, her and the other co-workers went there after work to drink a beer. I've never met them before and they totally LOVED me. Then she became a little flirty again over there, and somewhat joked to her mother and brothers I'm in love with her. They responded like: 'Well, he's approved!', even her brothers which I just met half an hour before. I saw she liked it. After we left she was still in a bad mood but was looking for attention again. Like asking why I didn't tell her today that she looked great, when we went in the elevator she was joking about having sex in it and stuff like that.

So what's your vision about this guys? I really like her but I just don't know what she wants exactly. Like I really can't imagine she doesn't like me, everyone who would see us together wouldn't believe that. But at the other end, why would she tell me twice she just see's me as a friend and reject a kiss while we were drunk?

I really could use some advice on this.

Thanks in advance

First of all: You shouldn't shit where you eat, man... It's uncomfortable and opens the door to potential HR and sexual harassment issues.

Now that's out of the way... My response to your question is three-sided:


1) I'm really not sure she's into you... But I'm obviously only going from only your side of the story... This *SOUNDS* to me like a lot of 'seeing what you want to see'...


2) I really have to question why you just aren't gaming other women instead of focusing on this one who's lukewarm on you. This is a pickup forum. This isn't a "get this one specific girl" forum. Your behavior, and the fact you needed to post here about this one specific girl (and create a new account to do it?) is part of the reason she's stopped you cold. You're not calling the shots, she is... Imagine if she saw this thread...
You're childishly posting all these observations about her that you think MAY indicate subtle interest instead of just manning up, taking charge and escalating.


3) Don't listen to what she says. Listen to what she DOES. She says she doesn't want anything with you beyond friendship (and I'm half inclined to believe her, given my reasons listed in #2, above)... But if you say you're seeing all these IOIs, then why aren't you acting on them. Don't discuss it with her... just make a move.

And then you stopped?
Sure gave her plenty of time to think it over... Plenty of time to think of reasons why she shouldn't.
And again you did nothing....
And again you did nothing....

I'm starting to see a pattern.

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