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PostPosted: Sat Jul 04, 2015 5:34 pm 
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i need some advice and i dont know what to do, i have an ex girlfriend i dated back when i was in highschool this was before i even had my license, we dated for half a year but this girl was the most amazing girl ever in my eyes, was also my first real relationship. i broke up with her because i was barley able to go out i had strict parents and every time we would make plans something would happen and i couldnt end up seeing her and she would be really upset because all her friends bfs were there so i broke up with her and told her i still love her and i would never break my promise to her i would come back for her once i had my license to drive etc...

she was then so heartbroken every time she seen my name shed cry and this happened for 8 months she really cared about me but eventually she moved on but we still spoke from time to time, i got older and got my drivers license and the first thing i did was send her a picture of it telling her i told you i didnt forget my promise, (dumb little promise i made when i was younger) and she replied with awhh odie thats so cute thats for remembering but i dont think my boyfriend would like that blahblah, so ever since then we stopped talking. i had her on Instagram even tell now id always check up on her and she dated the guy for 3 years.

(now 2 and a half years later which is present time today) i was at the club yesterday doing my thing gaming girls moving from set to set, and all of a sudden i see this girl lookin at me and i look to my left and it was her, 2 years later we both looked at each other for like 10 seconds then i walked away because i wasnt sure it was her. an hour later into the club she comes up to me and says are you odiee, and im like yeahhh shes like no wayy are u actually, (i look different from when i was younger) i said yeahh im your ex bf in a joking way and she said noo way and she gave me a hug and i knew her friend she was with because shes close with me and later on i told my buddy whos my wingman to dance with her friend while i grabbed my ex's hand and we started dancing, we started talking while dancing and i asked her hows everything with her bf, she told me shes not seeing him anymore and its over, and we continued dancing while i kissed her neck but then later on her friend wanted to find the rest of there friends so they both grabbed my arm and i took them to there friends and left.

later on my buddies were outside on the patio smoking and i seen her with her group of friends while i was with my group of friends and after that it completely screwed up my game, i wasn't in the mood to pick up girls, all the feelings for her all came back and hit me at once, i mean every single girl ive dated up until now some how reminded me of her personality and thats why i liked them more, i spoke to her friend which is also my friend and she told me she just came out of a 3 year relationship with that guy so shes not gonna be dating for awhile but she will tell her to call me if she does which doesnt really mean anything to me lol, she accepted my request from instagram again, and idk what to do now because the next morning after the club which is right now as i type that, cant stop thinking about her, before last night my mentality was i dont want to be in a relationship im to young i want to have fun, but once i seen her again all i want to do is be with her, i know i sound like a bitch but ive never cared so much for a girl in my life, what should i do?? please help asapp


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PostPosted: Sat Jul 04, 2015 8:55 pm 
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Strike while hot. Rather than being passive, and taking tangential ways of trying to determine if she's interested or not, take the bold direct approach and message (or call her) and plain straight up...

"Really nice bumping into you last night. Let's catch-up over coffee <or whatever> next week when's good for you?"

Don't shoot yourself in the foot by being like every other guy on her IG page. Least u'll know if she's interested or not, and if she's neutral u'll polarize her to being interested or not that way you're not wasting your time and can move on. The longer you sit with this the more u'll pedestalize her which you've already done to some extent. Act now, don't think yourself out of this it could be a missed opportunity.


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PostPosted: Mon Jul 06, 2015 12:37 pm 
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The fantasy that you have built up in your head over the years about this girl is the exact reason you will not like her in the way you think you do upon getting her. Guys do this all the time, but if your situation I think this may be a bit more of a dramatic case because of the length of time this has been going on. Now, I will tell you that from the need position you are communicating from this is not going to work. Women don't care about our mental fantasies, and how we knew the girl and thought of them for years.

Women are creatures of the moment and all they care about is right now. Throw all of that history out the window, it doesn't mean a thing. You shouldn't of even included in this post to be honest. All you needed to say was " Saw my ex girlfriend at a club, we danced, I kissed her neck. old feelings came back and I think I want to give this another shot". But the fact that you went into such detail about the history you experienced with the girl would suggest that you would be bringing too much mental baggage into this situation for it to have a chance at becoming successful.

You go after her with this new found " all my feelings came back and I just wasn't in the mood to game other girls" type of vibe and she will immediately put the walls up. She likes you for the guy that you were being when she first saw you last night " no care in the world, gaming girls, completely thinking about the mission ahead" not the guy you became after seeing her - "needy, with a strong desire to ignore everyone and just get her back"

My advice would be to go out for 3 days, approach some other women and clear you head before trying to start anything back up. 10 women a day for 3 days, with actual intention of trying to sleep with them. Not doing it just because you're being told to.

You caught oneitis last night, so don't go coughing in any chicks face until all of those emotions have time to settle and balance themselves out. There is no way this has a chance at going anywhere if you don't, even if she agrees to meet up.

Be patient, its likely that she may contact you anyway. So give it time, give yourself time to work through this new found neediness before taking any action. It'll all be a waste of time, and lead to more heartbreak and disappointment if you don't.

You're the opportunity here not her.

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