Got the number of a 7/10 today at the grocery store. I also gave her my number, found out what days she is free and said I will call her in a few days to set something up. She works 8am-5pm M-F. I am considering calling her tuesday night to arrange a date thursday evening. I have 3 main questions:

1. I'm actually thinking about taking her to this little amusement park place (it has mini-golf, laster tag, go-karting, etc) followed by a quick dinner at a korean bbq joint with booths. I've done this combo before, and I like it because it is easy to build comfort and it's activity based, so it takes pressure off you needing to sustain continuous conversation. Is this a lame date idea given the circumstances?

2. Do you think Thursday night is a better day to choose as first date than friday, sat or sunday? I would prefer one of those days due to my work schedule but I understand that would be asking a bigger commitment from her.

3. If I want to f-close this girl, how important is it to go out for drinks on the first date? I don't drink (I've never had a drop), but I'm considering starting if it will help me get laid. I'm debating between going out for drinks, to a cafe or to the amusement park place I mentioned as the first date.

Thank you for your input

1) Great first date idea, Sounds to me like you already have this in the bag.

2) I would go with thursday as well. Fridays and Saturdays are potentially booked.

3) And I know you didn't say you're going to begin drinking alcohol just so you can get laid. You can close without drinking man. Alcohol lowers the defenses, and a drunk lay is never as satisfying as a lay you get off your own effort. I don't even like a girl to drink the first time I sleep with her because something about it is a bit off. I want her to be fully aware and conscious of her decision.

Sounds like you'll be straight man. I wrote this 5 tips to a great first date allow below that'll help/

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I called her last Tuesday night around 8:30pm as first contact after we met last weekend at the grocery store. She didn't answer her phone, so I left a quick viocemail telling her to call me back. About 5 minutes later, I got this text (using a different name):

"John! I saw you called, but I'm out with friends at the moment. How are you doing?"

I replied with,

"good good, I just got home from XYZ activity. do you want to hang out later in the week?"

She never responded back to my text. Everything I've read about texting is that you want to go into logistics asap, and save the conversation for the date. I'm not sure where/if I went wrong here. I get the feeling she was just being fickle and decided to change her mind. In the future, I'm only going to ask her out over the phone or in person. I do not have a good track record with texting.