Once upon a time I was pretty good at game.

Now I'm 31 and out of a 3 and a half year relationship a few months ago.

Let's see if I can get these rusty wheels moving...

So far here is my biggest failing-

I picked up this girl over karaokee and it was romantic as all hell. I have proceeded to have 4 dates with her over the course of a month. Three of these dates have been fantastic. One was so-so (the second one) mostly because I was sick and should have called it off in the first place.

We have made out, danced, seen each others places, gone out for dinner and overall had a great time.

Usually by now I'm the one getting bombarded by texts and all that, but she barely if ever reaches out. Whenever I reach out though she always makes it clear that she is very happy to talk to me. Before we hang out she is excited to hang out. When we hang out she is definitely into me, although she does want to go slow in regards to moving to sex. Lots of last minute resistance and stuff that I forget how to deal with, or even if I should deal with it.

It's just weird though. Including the first meeting I have still only seen her 5 times and this is over the course of 30+ days. We had a great date a few days ago, and I suggested to meet up this weekend but she said she was too busy and we could meet during the week.

It's so weird for me right now because I don't remember this ever happening. Either the girl wasn't into me and it was obvious and I didn't see her, or she wanted to see me all the damn time.

I don't mind all the space, but I wanna know what I am dealing with here.

Meanwhile I date other girls but they've all been pretty meh so far.

Thoughts guys?

I am going through an extremely similar situation. 5 dates, no sex yet. The girl rarely reaches out.. I text her every 3 or four days to make plans and one time two weeks passed by before seeing each other again. The girl, however seems interested and enjoys spending time with me and on our last date I had her in my room and we were making out and when I slid my hand down there... she had a pad and she goes "Sorry, I can't..." I'm thinking "damn!" wondering whether it was true or all planned out by her. So we ended up just cuddling in bed which I actually enjoyed anyways. But yeah, the point is that what you described is exactly the same as what I am going through with this girl... mhhh... Maybe it's the same girl... who knows. LOL. So I am interested in a reply as well.

You are both getting hooked. Having only one girl to go to is dangerous because you'll get wrapped around her finger. Find more women rather than focusing so much one one.

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These hos ain't loyal

The girls will go with your flow, whoever you may be. A girl could meet a smooth playboy this week and she may feel like having sex within the first hour BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT SHE FEELS LIKE DOING. Meet more women and you'll get better at all of it.

Try stopping man.

The bottom line is.. As long as you keep doing what you are doing, she will keep doing what she is doing. Her behavior is partially a reflection of the precedent that you set. She's looking to follow your leadership. She also wants your emotional investment and your attention. So if she picks up on the fact that her being "distant" is keeping you interested and investing in her emotionally( hence this post) that is exactly what she will do. Because that is the behavior that is gaining her the most investment.

You want the tide to change, you change your actions. Pull away for a bit. Focus more on the other girls and/or meeting someone new that can get you invested enough to make a post about her just like this girl has.

Wake up bro. If she isn't responding in the manner that makes you happy make a decision. Either tolerate it and keep things the same; or let go switch it up and see if she bites. No reward without risk. So unless you're ready to potentially sacrifice this situationship, things will remain as they are.

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