Was dating this girl for about 4 months and she recently ended it, saying she needs time to think. She was in an abusive relationship before and said she didn't realise how much it effected her.
She said she's normally very into sex but since this previous guy she hasn't thought about sex at all, which she said was unusual as she finds me very attractive. We slept together once and it wasn't good. For some reason I couldn't perform which has never happens before, I think I was nervous as I liked her so much.

Anyway we saw each other for a few weeks after and she stayed over but nothing happened. She feel asleep in my arms one time, the next she said she felt fat and horrible after a big week away. So I didn't pursue any further as I felt these were her signs saying not tonight? ( maybe I fucked up with sexually escalating which is why she is blaming the previous guy so she doesn't have to tell me how it is, that I was a beta pussy ?)

She said its best we take a break un till she's sorted her self out, as she doesn't want to waste my time and feels guilty that she's can't give me what I want (sex) however, I feel this is an excuses to let me down I can't help but feel as though this is my fault and the bad sex the first time has brought this on. if she liked me that much she wouldn't risk losing me? She said she does like me and we get on great she just needs time to think and wouldn't be mad if I dated other girls! ( obviously not that interested? ).

ive had no contact with her since but she has been liking my facebook profile pictures (why?). my questions... Am I right that it was all my own fault and this is a lesson learnt? or is there some truth behind what she is saying? is this situation done or is there a chance we could get together down the line? im really annoyed at my self as Im not normally bad t sexually escalating or giving girls what they want and I almost want a second chance just to show her. Im thinking of just letting her come to me and have no contact and start dating othe girls? thanks for reading.... please go easy im no expert haha

I mean you could wait if you feel so strongly about her but you could just end up being strung along. You say she ended it, so ended=over....at least for now. In my opinion I think she's trying to let you down easy by giving you some excuse about her ex. Btw, she's had four months to forget about him so it's a lame excuse. It could have been the bad sex... I don't know I wasn't there. But, it does seem she is trying to cut things off. Don't read too much into the facebook pics because she's probably just trying to be nice. Anyways, I said this earlier today, pay attention to the other 3.5 billion girls, trust me...there are some hot ones. Good luck.

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Thanks Old Sport...

You still posting about this girl man?

The same answers you received here viewtopic.php?f=6&t=190093 are still applicable to this post. Go back and give that a read. You must have forgot.

Can you guys get back together down the line? Possibly, but only if you're in the mindset that you don't really want to. So long as you're emotionally connected to her the way you are now, she will feel the way about you that she does now. She's reflecting your own state back to you. So it is the frame you project that is the reason you were left. So keep this frame and she will keep her "response"(leaving you).

You've got to let it go.

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