She has a boyfriend and fucked you.

Sounds like a quality lass to hitch your star to.

Yeah. That's why I said the last thing. She has talked about him cheating on her a bunch and she was planning on ending things with him. If she holds true to that, then I think I'm still good, but if she only wants to continue this as a secret thing, I'm out.

Well, lots have happened. She started hanging with me alone a lot. Today made a total of 3 full closes and she told me it had to stop after today. I ignored it at first and made a joke that I guess she couldn't leave today then. She told me she was serious and I could tell she was. We talked for quite some time after that.
She is planning to break up with her boyfriend, but she says she usually takes him back after he begs her for about a week and kept apologizing because she has no common sense. She explained that she wanted to be the one to end it. She told me that I was a great guy. She said she wanted me to not act upon any of my feelings toward her until this all blew over and she's not even sure if it will. She told me she wasn't telling me to wait on her and I promptly replied I wasn't going to. She still wants to talk with me and hang out occasionally, but with no feelings involved.
The obvious solution is to find other women, which I will do, but as far as this one goes, how should I handle the current relationship and events?

Several more developments have happened. Although I am unaware of the details, she has made it clear that she no longer had a boyfriend. I had stopped texting and hanging out with her for about a total of two days and she told me she was jealous of my friend I went to breakfast with because she wanted to be the one spending time with me.
Her sister text me and told me the target had asked her "Do you think it's weird that I'm starting to like him?" Her sister said she replied, No, he's a great guy. "
She had previously cancelled our outing to the movies, but after that jealous statement acted as if she had never cancelled. I invited her and her sister over the night before. She came alone. She was sad and talked to me about her mother and wanting to move to be with her. Shortly after, she talked about moving, locally, to a place by herself because she couldn't live with her sister anymore. She was laying on me and started falling asleep. I dozed off a little too. Eventually, I told her to lay on the couch and cuddled with her. After a few hours, I told her to move to my bed because there's more room. She happily obliged. We slept cuddled up the rest of the night.
The next morning, she was real touchy, but still avoiding kisses. She asked what I was thinking and I said, "I'm just trying so hard not to kiss you" After a bit, she stopped resisting. When we had kissed awhile, she said we shouldn't be doing this. I'm not ready yet. I stopped immediately and said "You want me to stop" and she said "Yes, but I'm not going to lie I'm really turned on."
We sat there a bit and she asked if she could mastrubate and I said if I could help. She said she wanted me to and that I could kiss her, but only for now. It progressed along and ended as expected.
The next day we went to breakfast with the sister and them the movie. Lots of physical contact during the movie, but she always avoids kisses in front of her sister. The next night that we were at work, she was very open. A coworker asked if we were dating. She didn't say anything, so I said no. She asked, "Why, would we look cute together?" The coworker and me both said yes. She laughed and hugged me. She kissed me on the cheek when I passed by her later.
She jokingly mentioned how our kid would look, constantly calls me cute, and compliments me. She then quickly adds too bad we wouldn't work out. It feels like she's using pick up on me.
After work, we sat talking with lots of contact, but one again she was avoiding kisses and her sister was there. Her sister jokingly said we were taking too long and the target said I've already told him I'm NRFR, right? I said yeah.
Alright. It seems to me she isn't sure if this thing with her ex is over completely yet, but definitely has an interest in me. On the other have, maybe she still isn't sure if she's going to move. The NRFR thing is annoying. What is a good course of action at this point?

Lol that's such an awkward situation. Hopefully you didn't come across as overly interested... I can imagine a situation and line of questioning like that pidgeon-holing you into responses that make you sound like a lovesick virgin.

I can't even imagine how I'd respond but I would probably say something neutral like "she seems nice." Or even act like she has yet to win me over by saying something like "she seems nice, but I don't know her well enough yet." Fucked if I know the correct response or if that'd totally fuck everything up but I'd probably blurt something along those lines out if I was pressured into such a situation.

Or if I knew for a fact she was mega down and into me I'd probably respond in the casually positive to ramp things into fifth gear. For example if I can tell the friend is asking because she knows her friend is into me. You can tell if this is the case very easily by assessing the tone of voice and body language.

Would probably try and say she's imagining stuff when she's trying to "list the ways she could tell I'm lyk totally in love with her!" don't want it to sound like you've been pining from afar and were too shy to show it.

Are you serious? Why did you sleep and cuddle wtf? In such a situation you could have had her out of her clothes within 30 minutes at the absolute maximum what are you doing? Omg man...

First off, I don't think you read all of this thread, let alone the entire last post. I like to sleep and cuddle! However, if you had read everything you'd see that she's been out of her clothes several times with me, including after we woke up. The issue is with her saying she's "not ready for a relationship" in spite of that. In other words, she is avoiding labeling our relationship.

My apologies. So she likes having her cake and eating it too. She's totally stringing you along here, she has NO intentions of leaving her boyfriend in my opinion. I have been in the same situation and heard the same exact lies. "We argue all the time I don't know how much longer it will last between us!" the answer was: years. And he did the same thing of going to her house apologizing etc. then getting back together time and time and time again. Massive arguments so bad on the streets that people pulled over in their car thinking he was mugging or raping her. It's weird how these shitty relationships tend to last so goddamn long. But that always seems to be the way.

Basically, don't hold your breath I suspect their relationship will last another year or two at least. But of course there's a chance she's being legit... But she wants to keep it all hush hush and secret from even her sister, why? Does she not want her to think badly of her OR is it because she knows she still wants to be with her boyfriend and doesn't want there to be any chance of him finding out?

[quote="Spunkle"]

I wouldn't have answered it...because women love
to know if a guy is attracted to them...as soon as
she knows for sure she "got you" it stops being
fun

Example:
"Do you like my sister?"
Me: "She's OK, I guess" *smirk
"What a jerk, I mean would you want to date her?"
Me: "Hmmm I guess it depends on where she takes me"

***See what I'm doing...answering the question in
a fun way that doesn't really answer the question

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