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Ok yes, that's a bit of a tough one.
I have a couple questions, and I will suggest a couple of things... but none of them are going to be silver bullets because I don't really have the answer for you here (especially without seeing you in the field and seeing how comfortable/good you are with girls):
One question is: When it goes to full-on kissing, where do you go from there? Do you escalate? You should try that... try to go as far as you can until she stops you, man... Full out making-out kissing is more than a "you're a nice guy and a funny guy" thing... It's a very, very, very solid IOI and you should keep going when you're seeing something like that.
Are you "jokey" about your disability? You may be able to play it up and use it (I'm aware it's a hinderance, but making some sarcastic, funny jokes (in the right light! You won't be able to make these in just any situation) -- things like "guess you'll have to be on top tonight" or something.
I'm also wondering about your confidence level... You seem like you have a decent attitude about this stuff, and I hope this reflects in the field - You want to put off a vibe that you're the man... and the wheelchair doesn't impair you in the slightest from having a great time.
Identify yourself as a sexual option as soon as possible. That'll cut back on chicks who just hang around you cause you're the 'funny guy in the wheelchair'...
Also - try going out with buddies instead of Dad.
Thank you for your comment, CharlesFinley. On to your first question, I do try and escalate it, I put my hand up their shirt, I touch their ass and stuff. They do reciprocate this too. I just don't know what to do from there.
I do joke about my disability to make it seem like nothing. I am quite confident that I'm not putting any sympathy-request on it, as I do not want that.
I do tell my dad to go, which seems to work quite well. The problem is when he comes back to help me.
I do act confident, maybe I just need to go even further?
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I won't sugar coat it, majority of girls give you attention perhaps out of sympathy, I have no better way of saying it to you.
I feel bad if I was to skip this thread. But the sooner you realise that girls do this, the better you are at doing something about it.
I will be honest that I can not relate to your situation but the best advice I got for you.
I saw this not so long ago, and i think it is a great example of how to use your disability to your advantage:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=taTSxDVEHRM Perhaps adding the self deprecation to your game could be worth pursuing...Thats the best I got for you. I wish you the best luck.
You are completely correct, Dragula. Most girls do talk to me out of sympathy. I have, on occasion, changed their view then they become more open to me. I do joke about my disability, some girls even join in. Thanks for your help.
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Hey whats up bro.
For starters, shout out to you for getting out and approaching despite your condition. I think every guy on this forum needs to read this post and then look themselves in the mirror so they can ask themselves why they don't have the courage that you do.
I'm sure you get a lot of people being overly nice to you because of your condition so I'm going to stop right there. You don't need sympathy and you don't need approval. What you need is what you're out there trying to get. Its not going to be easy bro. You're obviously operating differently than the majority of the people at the club, so you have a bigger challenge ahead. I would suggest you look for a buddy, someone decent with women, instead of going out with your dad if you can help. Dads tend to be overly protective, and while I don't know your dad, if my son had cerebral palsy I'd be protective over him too.
I will say though that if you've already found yourself in multiple make outs you're not that much further away. If you can get a chick to flat out make out with you, getting laid is the next step.
There are guys out there that have been going out for 5 years who are completely functional that haven't gotten make outs. So take a look at that. Many may not get this or be willing to accept this but I know women and I know that when a man is rooted in his masculinity strongly enough a woman has no choice but to submit to the power in front of her. But you have to embody that character. You have to drill the thoughts in your mind over and over that would suggest that you are a God among men, a King despite your condition. That you are the greatest thing that has ever stepped onto planet earth in the history of this planets existence. You have to repeat that until you believe it. You have to manipulate your own mind consistently until you look in the mirror and see the God that lays within you.
I don't care what anyone says, a woman is going to think about you whatever it is that you think about yourself. You believe you're weak, disable, and strange, they will see that because you will be projected it from your frame. You believe(not think) you're a god and they will see the God within you.
And beliefs are nothing more than thoughts that have been repeated over and over again until they become one with the subconscious.
So begin working on your mind. Begin telling yourself what you want to see yourself as, as if you're already are it. Repeat, repeat, repeat repeat and repeat.
Your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits your habits become your character and your character becomes your destiny.
Anything else just ask.
You are very inspirational, Eddie. Thanks for this advice. I will use it.
Thanks guys.
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