So I was teasing this HB7 at the bar that I would be so toxic for her and she would be so toxic for me in a relationship - basically, future relationship projecting. Well she responded really well, laughing, smiling, and saying, "Yeah I would be toxic for you." I asked, "Ok, how would you be toxic for me?" She said, "I don't know, I was just playing along." I froze up mentally right there. All of a sudden I didn't think of how to continue teasing about our future "toxic" relationship. What are some of you guys' suggestions? How can I continue the teasing and future projection creating? Is the "toxic relationship" really attractive, and should I extend it, or is it just a short attraction piece? Thoughts?

Learn to recognize when "topics" and "routine" type stuff like this tease have run their course.

You should have changed the topic before she said that... IE: don't follow up on something purely gag-like. It's like kicking a dead horse that nobody cares about and that doesn't matter.

New topics. Segways. Keep things moving. It'll take some practice if you're not great socially. Try to identify (quickly/subconsciously) when to move along and switch topics -- try to read her reactions. Will give you hints.

I agree with the post above. The thing about the conversation, especially when you are just getting to know each
other, is to not get hung up on any part of it or topic.

Change topics frequently. Jump from one to another. Change the topic often.

Here's my favourite way to change the topic.

Ask the question, "So what do you do besides (enter
the activity you are currently engaged in)?"

Example, "So what do you do besides talking to cute guys in a bar?" Do you go to school or work?

When she said, "Yea I would be toxic for you..." You could have said just "Yea, I can see it in your eyes...so
what else do you do in life besides being toxic and talking to handsome guys?"

Talk about normal, BORING stuff, like school, work, where she lives etc.

Anytime you get stalled in a convo, just use this question, change the subject AND keep talking.

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Anytime I get stuck on a topic I just stare her in the eyes and give her a glance like I disapprove of what she just said or that you don't believe her. Then say something like "anyways, who are you here with?" or something else.

You could have also teased her about being a tease saying that she would be so bad and then leaving you hanging.

But the advice on the thread is good. Don't kick a dead horse. Once she says "I don't know I was just playing along" that's the time to change subject. You can't bring it back up and make it interesting.

There are billions if not trillions of topics to talk about.

Learn to move on and let go of one to get yourself to the next one.

You also may want to consider the potential possibility of creating what you're projecting onto the woman. As guys we joke all the time, we'll just say whatever for the fun of it in the moment. Women take our words to heart. So when you begin getting close to her the idea of your toxic relationship will ring true to her. They go back and analyze everything and they talk about everything. Had you gotten it on with her she would of been telling her friends the next day how much you continued to tell her how toxic you would be for her life. Asking them " what do you think this means? ". We don't do this as guys. It was all fun and games for us. But they do it amongst each other. If you've every jokingly told a girl how you felt about her in an intimate way you've seen this happen. They take it literally and make decisions based upon it.

You can have the same success with the polar opposite to that statement which will also lead to a more favorable outcome if there ends up being a future.

Just be mindful.

Everything else has been covered I believe.

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