Ive been gaming this girl on and off for over four month now. During the time ive been gaming other girls but this one in particular i havent had any success with but sadly the one im most attracted to personality wise.

In the beginning you could say there was alot of attraction but as time went on it seemed to have died away. She use to snap me or text me random stuff everyday but not so much now. We have never gotten physical even though i tried. Each time she seem to pull away like she wasnt comfortable with it. But when we go party or hang out at the club she didnt seem to mind as long as it wasnt a erogenous area. My friend said she thought the girl just didnt want to appear easy. Either way as time went on i lost interest and stopped texting her or asking her to hang. However last week she reinitiated contact and i decided to go along with it.

We hung out a few times but i was busy with work and family stuff so didnt have anytime to hang longer than a hour or so. Eventually one day she asked if i could take her to the airport cause she wanted to go on a vacation and visit a female friend of hers that just had a baby before summer class. I messed around and said yes if u buy me a ticket and take me too. She immediately invited me along and wanted me to go. I thought she was joking around so i wasnt taking it serious. Long story short i ended up going since i had already scheduled a week vacation prior month.

Initially she was going to stay with her friend and i was going to get a hotel but eventually she decided she would rather stay in hotel with me which was surpsing to me cause the few time i tried to get her to stay over before she always said she wasnt comfortable. We had planned to go hang around SF during the day and visit her friend at night but we ended up just hanging out with us 2 through the whole trip. We flirted back and forth through out the whole trip and felt like we got pretty close. Eventually i felt like i was getting the girl friend vibe from her. She was always asking if i was ok, what i was looking on my phone, why i was doing that and this, and eventually started nagging me like dont eat too much etc etc. At nights i would try to get physical with her but she still wasnt comfortable with the erogenous areas, which i think is because she was on her period.

Near the end of the vacation i had to leave early for work and she stayed behind with her friend. She kept begging me to call in sick and spend the rest of the time but i told her works work cant miss it. so the night before i flew out i decided to just tell her how i feel cause i felt like this shit dragged on long enough. I basically asked here where we stand and she said what do you think and she is use to or enjoy being single. And asked can we speak about this latter and could we go to bed.

I took it all as not interested and just said fuck it. The next say i flew back home and we had a brief exchange of text if she checked out of hotel ok cause hotel was under my name and if i got home safely but we havent talked since then. Which was 2 days ago. I know i should probably move on but usually a simple rejection like this wouldnt affect me but she got in my head. Perhaps its just me wanting what i cant have.

My question is should i just move on or is there a way to salvage this? I genuinely felt there was something there during the trip but perhaps i blew it but admitting how i felt.

Its always the one that guys are most attracted to that they seem to have the least success with.. There is a pattern there. She's being put on a pedestal and as a result she is treat you the way people on pedestals treat the people below them.

Question: Did she pay for your flight? Did she chip in at the hotel? Did you guys share the same bed at the hotel?

I find it strange that a girl planned to fly to see her friend, invited you randomly after not speaking to you for a while, and then didn't bother seeing her friend once she got there.

Whats going on here?

There is definitely something, but the bottom line is that you're mentally lifting her out of your reach. "She got in my head" isn't the words of a guy that actually gets the girl thats in there. She'll stay where she's trapped.

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She didnt chip in for hotel and flight but she did pay for her own flight and most of the expenses while we were there. We did actually visit her friend one night and went to the bar and had dinner but the rest of the time she said she would rather spend with me since im leaving early and the rest of her vacation she can stay with her friend.

Initially the room was a king bed but when we got there she said she would stay with me and asked if i can get two queen cause she wasnt comfortable sleeping in same bed. I dont think she used me for hotel because she could of stayed at her friends she would and in the past she usually does. She has a thing where if shes out past 12 she has to spend the night else where something to do with her parents and before when given the option shes always stayed at her friends house.

I dont think she used me for the trip if thats what u mean but perhaps im blinded?

If your saying ive got her on a pedastal what do u think i should do next? Go no contact and try again later? Or just cut my losses and move on?

I'm seeing if I can get to the bottom of it. But yeah man.. Cut it. Let her chase if she wants to.


How long has it been?

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Been 5 month off and on last couple cause i was busy with work and family and she was busy with school she asked me out to eat once and i did the same. Thanks for the advice ill cut my losses. Just wanted to see if there was anything else i can do cause i clicked with her the most. Even now after my vacation ive hooked up with a girl i was talking to before but still cant get this onenout of my mind

You stop writing about her, you stop asking about her, and she will slowly but surely slip on out. By that time she'll want you, but I'm almost sure that it will be too late.

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Alright thanks for all the advice!